[Anonymous2005]

Let me start off by saying this is extreemly embarrassing as well as fustrating. I dont know what the issue is, but this is about the only place I know that people will tell me straight up what they think.

The problem is that I cant seem to get in the mood when I'm with a girl. Its to the point where its sad as shit, I'm 20 years old for gods sake, and have a damn healthy sex drive, I beat off and have no problems with that, but when It actually comes time to perform I cant get it up for shit.

Now I'm no womanizer or anything like that, up untill recently I rarely(read never) had the guts to go up and talk to a girl or anything, as a result my play has been limited. Esp. since I have this "problem." Recently I've been doing much better, but I've never been able to get it up with a girl (about 3 times, with 3 different girls).

This is really killing my confidence, whats the point of spiting game when I cant play ball.

Honestly I dont think its even physical, cause I can get it up just fine when I'm alone, but how do overcome this?

Any advice, experinces, jokes, are welcome.

 

[hanglowejohnson]

Honestly... dude you're gay...

try banging a guy and see what happens...


ok im joking, but still... def got some issues goign on that i would guess no one on this board will really be able to help u with

 

[Anonymous2005]

I'm deff not gay, nor can I afford proffesional help.

This is worth a shot, mayby someone else had simular experinces.

 

[dreamy333]

maybe its bc you are nervous bc you havent been with alot of girls. just try to relax and dont just jump into it. FOREPLAY, have lots of foreplay. maybe i could teach you.jk. but seriously just have confidence in yourself. make her give you head for awhile.

 

[hyabusa]

Are you worried about your performance. Anxiety can do that to a person. However backing out like a chump while the girl is waiting for you can be just as bad as you only having fun in the sack. Lots of foreplay might not be good. Yes plenty for her to get stimulated, but sometimes the time makes Willy start to disappear. But then the girl just have to find someway to make things stand at attention.

O.T - Does anyone reading this like head more than sex?

 

[Anonymous2005]

head doesnt work either, neither does beer, in any amount.

I'm worried about my performance, esp cause it will be my first time if I can ever get to it.

seriously I sound so f#ckin sad right now, but what I'm I to do

 

[dreamy333]

is that you get nervous or somehitng maybe you need some viagra. i know a guy that he could get it up but when it was time for a 3 some he couldnt.

 

[appleripper]

Ah the first time jitters. You have the opposite of most guys. I at one time was a minuteman and no not the colonial milita. Only advice I could give would be to relax, get into it, and enjoy it. I am assuming the problem occurs only when the pressure is on. I would say tell yourself that you don't have to bang her over and over again. Start eating that or fingering it will help you feel the confidence needed to preform. I am also gonna go out on a limb and say are these chicks seducing you? You might feel better if you were the one initiating contact.

Also if it has happened with 3 girls then maybe you need to wait for the one. Or atleast a girlfriend were you will have more of an emotional connection. I can personally reccommend having the first time with someone special. Especially cause I almost lost it to a much older women but when she found out that it would be my first I was denied. I am very glad cause I know it was the right decision. Hope this helps you buddy.

 

[ASCI_Blue]

<insert Imperial March here>

Quit being a pussy you pussy. Get out there and start sticking your wang in anything female that moves. And yes you are fuckin sad. Once your nuts drop come talk to me.

OT Yes I am in a bad mood. And yes I do like head more than sex.

 

[Anonymous2005]

Ah the first time jitters. You have the opposite of most guys. I at one time was a minuteman and no not the colonial milita. Only advice I could give would be to relax, get into it, and enjoy it. I am assuming the problem occurs only when the pressure is on. I would say tell yourself that you don't have to bang her over and over again. Start eating that or fingering it will help you feel the confidence needed to preform. I am also gonna go out on a limb and say are these chicks seducing you? You might feel better if you were the one initiating contact.

Also if it has happened with 3 girls then maybe you need to wait for the one. Or atleast a girlfriend were you will have more of an emotional connection. I can personally reccommend having the first time with someone special. Especially cause I almost lost it to a much older women but when she found out that it would be my first I was denied. I am very glad cause I know it was the right decision. Hope this helps you buddy.

yeah thats kinda why I brought this up, my first couple of times I didnt really care about the girl or even getting laid, it was more of a peer presure thing.

Right now I'm sorta seeing this girl who I'm pretty sure is really into me, and I feel sort of the same way, but I'm still having problems with it :bitchslap I told her about this and she seemed willing to work with me on it. I also feel that getting this off my back and telling someone might help me resolve it.

I'll call her agian tonight and try agian, mayby if I feel more comfortable with her it will go better.

 

[appleripper]

OK bro. Sounds like you have the target locked on radar. And it sounds like you guys like each other, how cute. Good job about talking about it especially with her I am sure that was an akward moment.

Do not try again tonight. Set up an actual date dinner, movies, a party where you will both be together and having a great time. At the end of the night the great times will continue, automatically. DO NOT call her and say problem solved, I talked to some people on the internet and they think I can do it. Buy her some flowers etc. Not for her but for you. It will help you feel as if things are a perfect fairy tale. Going back to emotional/confidence/pressure you must know that is the true root of the problem if the mechanics are still functioning.

 

[Twisted Sister]

Quit yankin it so much:bitchslap

 

[Anonymous2005]

Quit yankin it so much:bitchslap

:lao

could this really be the problem though? I dont I'm that excessive

 

[FloridaMike]

Quit yankin it so much:bitchslap

:leghump +1 to that

 

[hyabusa]

Dude its the peer pressure. Even now if i didnt care about agirl and friends were tellin me yo she wants to bang ya tonight etc. If shes not hot i prob wouldn't rise myself.

Back in HS days of being a V. I talked to this girl decide after football go we go to local eatery and say we'll hop in the back seat and fuck. Well needless to say it didnt happen. Things like that shouldn't be planned or at least stated and planned. Both parties will know whats goin on but no one comes right out and sets a time line of events.

 

[bill]

dude quit thinking about how good it feels when you stick your lil willy into warm pootang, just try to take your mind onto something totally different and see what happens, that could help with the performance anxiety you seem to be having good luck


:beer

 

[powerranger]

I'd say, bang a couple ugly chicks first, actually a whole lot of ugly chicks, to get the confidence and then go from there.

 

[Twisted Sister]

I'd say, bang a couple ugly chicks first, actually a whole lot of ugly chicks, to get the confidence and then go from there.

This won't work...he is having a problem banging ANY chick.

 

[dreamy333]

damn i guess i could fit timeinto my schedule ot help.... :leghump

 

[Anonymous2005]

damn i guess i could fit timeinto my schedule ot help.... :leghump

:banana