I've been married a while (14years), and still don't know if I satisfy her. She tried to go outside of marriage to get satisfied but she found someone with a 10inch dick and was scared to try it. Stay married or dump her????? Don't know??????
What do you ladies need!!
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One thing you need to understand about women is this....
First of all, most women cheat not cuz we aren't sexualy satisfied. Most women do it because of reasons know only to us. We aren't happy either with ourselves or we need more romance. We want to be seen as "beautiful" to other men, and we need to be seen as sexy and alluring not just to other men, but also to our sposes. She's more then likely searching for emotional satisfaction, and alot of women associate sex with emotion. Men are visual creatures, women aren't. We get turned on mostly by KNOWING men want us, and what can be done to us. Emotions run high with women, as you should know, she's looking for other men to emotionaly satisfy her. You said she "tried". You didn't say she "did", and she did tell you about it. I'm not saying what she did was ok, it isn't. But both of you need to sit down and talk seriously and find out what she and you need to be satisfiyed in this marriage. I'm sorry she did that, and I can imagine your hurt.
First of all, most women cheat not cuz we aren't sexualy satisfied. Most women do it because of reasons know only to us. We aren't happy either with ourselves or we need more romance. We want to be seen as "beautiful" to other men, and we need to be seen as sexy and alluring not just to other men, but also to our sposes. She's more then likely searching for emotional satisfaction, and alot of women associate sex with emotion. Men are visual creatures, women aren't. We get turned on mostly by KNOWING men want us, and what can be done to us. Emotions run high with women, as you should know, she's looking for other men to emotionaly satisfy her. You said she "tried". You didn't say she "did", and she did tell you about it. I'm not saying what she did was ok, it isn't. But both of you need to sit down and talk seriously and find out what she and you need to be satisfiyed in this marriage. I'm sorry she did that, and I can imagine your hurt.
japbike had a lot of good things to say, but I will add this...
I used to think that women and sex was only an emotional thing. But I have run across a few women that are an exception.
My first advise is to sit down and find out exactly what she needs, that you are not providing. Is it the emotional aspect, or more a physical thing? That is what you need to find out.
If it is emotional, then seek some counciling. I did with my wife and it turned our marriage around. From thinking about seperation, to having a wonderful marriage.
If it is physical thing, then either she is not telling you what she needs done, or you are not following her instructions. If you are not doing it correctly, then she would never be satisfied.
On the topic of large man members...I have seen close up my wife give birth. The woman's private parts can be streatched pretty far. But on the same token, it can be worked out (Keigals etc) to clamp down on a pencil! It is nothing more than muscles! So if she needs something "larger" either have her work out those muscles or if you are ok with it, let her try it out.
I have been married for 9 years. At recently a little bit of spice has been added to our sex lifes. (still debating on posting it) But there is nothing wrong with bringing other people into the marriage (sexually only) to add some excitement. Maybe she just wants to try one that big? But communication is key. Without it, you will only be guessing....
I used to think that women and sex was only an emotional thing. But I have run across a few women that are an exception.
My first advise is to sit down and find out exactly what she needs, that you are not providing. Is it the emotional aspect, or more a physical thing? That is what you need to find out.
If it is emotional, then seek some counciling. I did with my wife and it turned our marriage around. From thinking about seperation, to having a wonderful marriage.
If it is physical thing, then either she is not telling you what she needs done, or you are not following her instructions. If you are not doing it correctly, then she would never be satisfied.
On the topic of large man members...I have seen close up my wife give birth. The woman's private parts can be streatched pretty far. But on the same token, it can be worked out (Keigals etc) to clamp down on a pencil! It is nothing more than muscles! So if she needs something "larger" either have her work out those muscles or if you are ok with it, let her try it out.
I have been married for 9 years. At recently a little bit of spice has been added to our sex lifes. (still debating on posting it) But there is nothing wrong with bringing other people into the marriage (sexually only) to add some excitement. Maybe she just wants to try one that big? But communication is key. Without it, you will only be guessing....
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If you love her seek help other than on a sportbike site. There is some good reading and advice on marriage here. http://www.marriagebuilders.com
Good luck.
Good luck.
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Lasher said:
I have been married 9 years also. And some spice has entered our lives also this past year with our best friends of 15 years. It worked for us but be careful, it is not for everybody. To make a long story short, I was interested in his wife and he in mine before we all started dating.
Second, she did not do anything and did tell you. There is only two kind of people in this world, those that look and fantisize and the others are liers. I agree with Lasher, seek counciling and go from there.
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She wants your money and his genes. Dump that shit and start working out.
Edit: If that seems a little harsh for a first post, allow me to add that I am divorced and have a little experience with such things.
Edit: If that seems a little harsh for a first post, allow me to add that I am divorced and have a little experience with such things.
bluesnowmonkey said:
the fact that you say "little" says ALOT.. and seems we are a little bitter?? hmmmm???? keep that up, and you'll be alone forever. And not all women want men's $.. I have PLENTY of my own and in no need for any one elses. And the genes part, not all women want children, me included.
Sorry if that seems a little harsh...
ZeuSeason said:
+1...We all think about other people when we are in relationships. My point is that, she was gonna go out and bone another guy sept she was scared of his magic stick...If she got that far with him, who is to say that she wont just get it over with when she finds some guy that would be "more comfortable"...Get outta there!
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I guess i'm just one closed mind mofo with morals but I really don't see how anyone can cheat on a spouse/BF/GF. I mean if you want something else, dump 'em and move on. But to just go out and cheat is not right in my eyes.
I mean thats just like saying, hey babe, you know I love you but damn i just gotta get a younger, tighter peice of ass with b***** tits. you don't mind if I go fuck the neighbors daughter do ya? And remember I love you. LOL I Just don't see it but whatever you think, its your wife.
I mean thats just like saying, hey babe, you know I love you but damn i just gotta get a younger, tighter peice of ass with b***** tits. you don't mind if I go fuck the neighbors daughter do ya? And remember I love you. LOL I Just don't see it but whatever you think, its your wife.
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Dump her, I live by the old saying: "once a cheater, always a cheater"
The problem is that if she already cheated on you, what is holding her not to do it again???
I think it is like having a mental barrier about what you can and what you can't do, once you break that barrier there is no going back.
The problem is that if she already cheated on you, what is holding her not to do it again???
I think it is like having a mental barrier about what you can and what you can't do, once you break that barrier there is no going back.
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You must go and sleep with as many womem as you can before she sleeps with that guy. Either that or just bring a girl over and plan it right so that when you wife comes home she catches you bangin that girl.
I know that won't solve anything, but it sure would get her pissed.
I know that won't solve anything, but it sure would get her pissed.
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If she came back and told you that she did (or tried to do it), then it could be forgiven... Even though it would be hard for you to EVER trust her again.
Where are all the women like you? It seems like all of the rest of women want to get married right away and start popping kids. When I tell a girl about me not being really into having kids (not right now at least), they seem to distance themselves.
-Filip
Japbike,japbike said:
Where are all the women like you? It seems like all of the rest of women want to get married right away and start popping kids. When I tell a girl about me not being really into having kids (not right now at least), they seem to distance themselves.
-Filip
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