4real said:
sounds like the duality of man (not gender specfic . sp ? ) and tearing your self with outdated puritan values i mean seriously how fuck up and repress do you have t0 be for the british to say get the fuck out
Was this less confusing after i Quoted it??? I didn't think so

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Anyway. It sounds like (in the nicest way i can think of) your stifling your natural tendences and urges.....now no one should just go about doing whatever the hell they want because they "like it." But, alot of things are fine if you practice self control. Moderation is key.
I believe you said you don't want to have sex....This is completey your choice obviously. But understand the reasons why you don't want to. Are they religious? Are they just a personal choice you've made arbetraraly? Is it an attempt to control yourself by cutting your self off completely??
I believe you mentioned in a past thread that you wanted to wait until you were married....I might be wrong so please correct me if i am. This is a good thing if you can find someone with the same idea,that can control themselves. I use to think like that "wait until i find someone ill be with for ever blah blah"..... Now i've relized this just made sex into this BIG DEAL and tended to over shadow all other portions of the relationship in a very bad way.
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I think you need to sit back and think about your choices, how you live your life now, and how you want to live your life. Try being nonbias about your situation (a little hard but possible).
Also. The guy you were with.........if you've been preasured into having sex again, and upon reflection find you really don't or didn't want to, you should really be careful about who your hanging out with. If you find you really did want to do it and don't feel bad
except for previously deciding to be abstinant, refer to the paragraph above.
O.k. All done. Sorry about the length(insert j/k here). Good luck figuring this confusing post out.
Just remember: If your not enjoying life your not living

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