[Solitude]

Lately my girlfriend has just been... i dont think lazy is the word, but she is always complaining about being tired, having no energy etc. A while back she had some health problems, and she thought those were resurfacing, but the doc says that she is ok. So either she is just always tired, or its all in her head. I love her to death, and i really love spending time with her, but lately its starting to get sort of frustrating. I want to see her, and go out and do shit, and she wants to sit around. Granted, she is working full time but I cant see how she can be this tired all the time. I work from 10 am to 6 pm full time, I get done working, and I have the energy to stay up/out until 2 am if thats what I choose to do. She works either 12-8, or 9-5 depending on the day, and by like 9 or 10 pm shes ready for bed, which means no play for me, and usually she just wants to veg out on the couch in the evenings. I cant see how someone would need 12 hours of sleep per night... I keep telling her that she needs to get more exercise, or get out and do shit more often (like hiking, play ball etc.) something to be more active but she complains that she doesnt have time, or cant.
This isnt really that big of a deal to be honest, its not that she isnt spending time with me or anything like that. But lately ive been starting to worry about her health, even though the docs say shes ok. Last night for example we went out to eat, and at 9 pm she was heading off to bed... not the greatest saturday night date. Not to mention her sex drive is null and void lately in the evenings because shes tired.
Any suggestions?

 

[dennisred69]

She might have Mono or might be depressed.

 

[snigg]

Any suggestions?

kick her to the curb and get a bitch with some energy.

 

[Rascus]

She might have Mono or might be depressed.

I was thinking the same thing. There are a few online test she take to see if she should go see a doctor. What triggered my thought was the history of health problems, that could have kicked in the depression. Have her get checked out...if it's not that, then do what snigg said:

kick her to the curb and get a bitch with some energy.

:twofinger

 

[RSixxygrl]

Awww what is it...the 6 month mark???? That's when you really start seeing people's true personalities etc!!!

 

[Solitude]

1. Im not kicking her to the curb

2. Its nothing new, its not like ok its been 5 months now shes changing on me, shes been like that for a while.

Im just wondering if maybe something like a good excersize routine, or a change in diet etc. might do the trick. I probably shouldnt have posted this in the relationship forum, because I think its more of a health/ fitness type of thing than anything else.

 

[Rascus]

How long ago where her heath problems? Depending on the timing, it really could be depression...something like that you want to get checked out right away.

 

[chillwill]

Get her checked out, and if nothings wrong and she doesn't want to perk up, I'd say find another girlfriend. It's not worth being in a boring relationship and not getting any.

 

[Exhiliration]

Cocaine is the answer.

 

[hondaboy447091]

Cocaine is the answer.

or red bull!

 

[Ludicrous]

Does she have an old mattress? Even if she's sleeping a lot of hours, if it's not GOOD sleep, she's still going to be tired & lethargic. When I bought a new bed, I was amazed at the difference - and I didn't really even realize my old one was that bad.

 

[SpeedracerFTP]

exercise! go on short walks with her, then build up to longer ones. Working out should help with energy. Vitamin b12 helps with energy supports also.....

 

[CBRPhil]

Does she have an old mattress? Even if she's sleeping a lot of hours, if it's not GOOD sleep, she's still going to be tired & lethargic. When I bought a new bed, I was amazed at the difference - and I didn't really even realize my old one was that bad.

Get her a SEELY.

 

[bluesnowmonkey]

Maybe she was just raised that way. You know, like her parents were always laying around and complaining of being tired and having headaches. If that's the case, a lot of it's just in her head and nothing short of a self-motivated change in attitude will change her lifestyle.

Good luck with it, in any case.

 

[robbieace]

She's depressed. Classic example of depression. Low sex drive, tried all the time, unfullfilling sleep, uninterested in anything, and lazy. Get her to go to a doctor. She is very unhappy about something in her life. Talk to her about it.

 

[1up5down]

Have her take a pregnancy test.

 

[Raven R1]

She's depressed. Classic example of depression. Low sex drive, tried all the time, unfullfilling sleep, uninterested in anything, and lazy. Get her to go to a doctor. She is very unhappy about something in her life. Talk to her about it.

If I were you...I would listen to this guy. :leghump :leghump :leghump

 

[japbike]

She's depressed. Classic example of depression. Low sex drive, tried all the time, unfullfilling sleep, uninterested in anything, and lazy. Get her to go to a doctor. She is very unhappy about something in her life. Talk to her about it.

+1 on this.... those are classic symptoms of depression. Get her to a Dr. before it gets worse, and YES it can get worse....

 

[rino4511]

My wife's the same way. She's a 8-10 hours of sleep a night girl and she watches A LOT of TV - 5 hours a night easily. What sux is that she CHOOSES to watch TV until she's too tired for any nookie. It's funny, though, when we go out, she can drink until 2, 3, and 4 a.m.. It's all a matter of choice and priorties.

What we've had to do over the years is set expectations (plan ahead). I have to let her know that I was interested in ya-know-what in early in the day (and sometimes the week) and drop little reminders along the way otherwise Law & Order will monopolize her time instead. Seems to work ok for the most part.

Sidenote, I stopped trying to get some once before we had our "system" figured out. It's funny that it didn't take long for her to start getting depressed and worried about the situation and whether I didn't like it with her anymore. She (like a lot of women, I think) was used to sex being strictly on their terms when in a relationship and the man "taking what he can get" when she felt like it.

Also, use the health argument! Nothing like HARD science to promote more fookin'!

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/5263250/
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/4676076/ (Like Dice said, "I just knew that it had to get done.")

Randall

 

[Road Warrior]

Chronic fatigue syndrome?