not to trample on your experiances or make light of them- cause I know being subjected to such animosity over something you feel so strongly about can be brutal.I have to agree with Ghoti on this. Even if you're not using it in a homophobic way, that's how it sounds to those of us who are homosexuals. I don't know about others, but I've been subjected to so much hate (and sometimes violence), from people who are homophobic, that it gets me down any time someone starts calling something gay, or saying this thread is a fag, etc. Sometimes, you have to think less about what you actually mean, and more about how your readers will perceive your words.
but using the word gay is a pretty common thing to desrcibe a miriad of items the user finds unacceptable. And I have never had any of my gay friends say anything about it- and some of them were WAY to TMI over the top kind of people.
I'm sorry you don't really like it- but there is a point- where you have to get over it- because NOT EVERYONE HATES YOU and you can't go through your life acting like everyone does.
I had a black friend that was like that... we were both minorities- and he was more racist than almost anyone I know. Walked away from someone he loved very dearly because she was white- and he couldn't get away from the racial stigma.
But shocker- not nearly as many people cared as he thought.
And actually- describing leather pants- in texas- using the word gay- would be COMPLETELY appropriate- seeing as how most people that he is refering to being judgemental- would say- yeah he must be gay. as in homosexual.
I'm just saying- sometimes you gotta let it go because people have their own shit to worry about- and we typically aren't consumed with hating an one group of people.
plus- this board does a pretty good job of modulating extreme hostile views through peer pressure. we are allowed to have opinoins- but typically when someone crosses the line- the board as a whole will say so.
and welcome to SBN