[RSixxygrl]

I am with japbike...it's none of thier business!!! I don't ask and I don't tell...however to deal with the safe issue---go get tested on both sides and present the doctor's findings...period. That's all that matters at that point..not how many partners one has had.

When I was younger that question was asked more and I asked it to a guy once but that was a decade or more ago. I have not had any guys that I have dated lately ever approach that subject--which is a good thing...because I will say it's nunya....nun ya business :twofinger

 

[RSixxygrl]

um, probably around 15, I don't really remember all of them, mostly they were either one time things, or just booty calls, only a couple were relationships, and sometimes it just started as sex, and developed into a relationship, I have learned, that while I am not going to say sex has to be the most important part of dating someone, I can't be with someone who either A. won't have sex, or B. Won't do it right (she has to be willing to try things, and do oral, of course) it is nothing personal or really superficial I don't think, it is just something I want in a relationship, and I don't think I should have to compromise in that respect.

I agree...I think it is important...I will test drive the car before I buy it!! :twofinger If you wind up having problems in the "bedroom" it will only stem into other parts of the relationship!!

 

[RSixxygrl]

That point is very true. Same thing goes with living the person before actually getting married. You may love each other too death, but as soon as you move in you may hate the living hell out of each other.

For me...I have to draw the line at living together...it's not for me at all. For me that person who has been with me for a couple of years or so almost everyday if not everyday..spending nights at each others place etc...if they don't know me by then..then they never will.

My thing is...if I am good enough to live with then I am good enough to marry!! :twofinger There's just too much there for someone to walk out too easily..where as married...there are people who feel more committed and will work on things.

Again this is just how I feel for me!! I am pretty old fashioned like that and in liking my door opened for me, chair pulled out etc. This is something I won't bend my rule on at all.

 

[RSixxygrl]

There are some things that need to be known in a relationship and there are some that aren't...period! All someone needs to know IMO is if their partner is "clean"

Honesty is not always the best policy either!! If it brings more harm to something or someone...better left to keep your mouth shut!!

 

[RSixxygrl]

However, I *am* interested in what they say about their ex's. It's amazing what you can learn about someone by the way they talk about their ex's.

(Note: If someone talks bad about all their ex's, I wouldn't want to date them. Odds are, it wouldn't work out and then they'd be talking bad about *me*, even if the reason we split is that I came home to find them in bed with someone else.)

Peace,
Caliann

Very interesting... I like to hear the same. Of course most people are going to say a little something but it's if they keep going on and on all the time about how horrible their ex was is when that raises a red flag to me..

 

[RSixxygrl]

Dont ever consider getting married then...unless you want to marry a whore/prostitute.

Stimy is just being funny Baldman..he has that one liner type of humor that we all love (or at least I do!!) :lol

 

[RSixxygrl]

Hmm, 12 for me, but then I'm 34yrs old. Don't know if that'd be concidered a high number or not.

I've always been a conniseur of women, but have learned through experience, like Solly, that making them weak in the knees is much more fun than just taggin' it.

If asked directly, I'd tell the truth about the number, but for some reason it's never come up. If it did, I'd expect a truthful answer in return when I pose the same question. What I do like to know is her past history if only to know the events that have shaped her into the woman she is now. I guess I just don't like secrets; they have no part in a healthy, open & honest relationship.

Nope that's not a high number in my book...especially at 34...quite tame which is good IMHO :twofinger