Ex Husband ??

BrandonsGSXR · 09-05-2004, 11:59 PM

My girlfriends exhusband is still obsessed with her. He is a drunk loser. He calls non-stop. Tells her he loves her. He harasses her all of the time. The only reason I try not to get involved is they have a 4 year old daughter together.

I have about had it with this guy. I am doing everything I can to not go off on him. My girlfriend won't do anything about it because she is afraid he will take off with their daughter or say something to her.

Does anyone have any suggestions about how to get this guy to back off? He needs to move on.

Thanks,
Brandon

SqDancerLynn1 · 09-06-2004, 02:08 AM

Their is nothing you can do, She has to do it herself. get herself an attorney. OR at least get a restraining order- ordering him to stay away & not call . Get caller ID on the telephone. Was their any kind of legal divorce? Then you can have him arrested if he comes around or calls

SqDancerLynn1 · 09-06-2004, 02:11 AM

Another thing you could do is follow him & CALL him in as a drunk driver everytime he leaves the bar

speedmom2 · 09-06-2004, 02:13 AM

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Originally Posted by SqDancerLynn1

Their is nothing you can do, She has to do it herself.

+1

We all have our own path ~

BrandonsGSXR · 09-06-2004, 11:16 AM

She refuses to do anything about it because she doesn't want it to affect their daughter.

EricKC · 09-06-2004, 11:45 AM

She going have to stop refusing to do anything about it.

Bottom line its going and IS effecting your relationship with her. Honestly if she can't see that and won't do anything about it then she's setting her priorities elsewhere.

If he's a drunk loser then why be concerned about an effect on his daughter? Sounds like he already has an effect or could by being a drunk loser.

Personally, not knowing the whole story of course, if she's not going do anything about it, I'd cut your loses on all of it. Why put up with all the baggage in her life if she's unwilling to do anything about it?

BrandonsGSXR · 09-06-2004, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by EricKC

Why put up with all the baggage in her life if she's unwilling to do anything about it?

I love her to death.

I am just trying to stay out of it. I am just getting really pissed about how he is treating her and the constant phone calls and harassment he is putting her through. She had 14 calls in a row from him yesterday and he never has anything to say. He just wants to chit chat with her.

I have already got into it with him once on the phone. I am just trying to keep my cool and not cause any problems.

BrandonsGSXR · 09-06-2004, 01:13 PM

Not to mention we are having a baby in Nov!

snoflk · 09-06-2004, 01:48 PM

She's giong to have to take care of it if they are legally divoriced and they have joint cusdy of their daugher he can't do nething and if he takes off its kidnapping. You need to sit down and explain everything to her in a calm manner that it is hurting you and you don't want nething to happen to her or your child because of him getting all weird when hes drunk and that its not going to get ne better. she can have a restraining order agaist him and still be able to see her daughter or she can bring him to court and tell the judge he's an unfit father because of his drinking and she affriad its going to affect their daughter

Good luck
Thats my 2 cents take it for what its worth

BrandonsGSXR · 09-06-2004, 02:10 PM

He is an idiot, he signed off all of his rights with her. She just won't do anything about it because she doesn't want her daughter to suffer any because of it.

EricKC · 09-06-2004, 02:22 PM

Sorry man, I know you love her and all but I would be pissed at her not him.

Seriously the situation needs to be about her so she can do something about it. There is no doubt that he needs to be away, there is no doubt that he's a loser and a piece of shit apparently from you. That part is clear.

Like I said, I don't have the whole story but I'm just not buying this "daughter suffer" excuse she is giving you. Sounds to me like she would suffer even more with the father in her life according to your testimony of him.

Nothing you can do. She has to do it and if she can't or won't then I think you have a more serious problem on your hands.

BrandonsGSXR · 09-06-2004, 02:46 PM

I totally agree she needs to do something about it. I think her main concern is that her daughter will grow up to hate her if she does something to him. She won't understand the full picture that her father is a loser.

EricKC · 09-06-2004, 03:46 PM

Well good luck man. I hope things work out for you.

leemajaz · 09-06-2004, 04:00 PM

it's really up to her to do somthing about it. it does seem like he's being a supreme dick but if she does do somthing because of your advise and ends up regreting it later, in her eyes, it's all your fault. let things take the natural course and in the end, he'll be his own undoing.

BrandonsGSXR · 09-06-2004, 04:26 PM

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Originally Posted by leemajaz

it's really up to her to do somthing about it. it does seem like he's being a supreme dick but if she does do somthing because of your advise and ends up regreting it later, in her eyes, it's all your fault. let things take the natural course and in the end, he'll be his own undoing.

That is my thoughts exactly. But on the other hand this guy is really starting to piss me off.