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Ever get that thought in the back of your head? Current gf/bf with their ex.
I have no idea why I can't seem to get this out of my brain. I just keep picturing my gf with the other guys she has dated...having sex or even just hanging out, and it makes me ill.
I mean, thinking about her having sex with anybody else gets to me...but it doesn't help that I knew the 2 guys she last dated, and they were both douchebags.
I know I should be positive and focus on the fact that we are together now and love each other, but that damned thought keeps creeping into the back of my mind. But back there too I know I can't expect every girl I date to be a virgin or something, and I'm cool with that thought. Girls are gonna have had other partners besides me, but why does it fucking bother me so much???
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cuase you're focusing on the past - forget it everyone has one even you...
just realize she's with YOU and quit getting twisted over the dumb shit...
or is there some reason she making you feel insecure...
cuase you're focusing on the past - forget it everyone has one even you...
just realize she's with YOU and quit getting twisted over the dumb shit...
or is there some reason she making you feel insecure...
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your hitting it now, and someone else is prolly going to be hitting later if you keep thinking like this. Besides, she wasn't your first was she? Exactly. Get over it. I know that a chick I am dating is banging other doods as well. That just the relationship that we have. It happens, but hey... I look at the bright side of things, if she is not bring desease over, she is bringing new teqniques...
I have no idea why I can't seem to get this out of my brain. I just keep picturing my gf with the other guys she has dated...having sex or even just hanging out, and it makes me ill.
I mean, thinking about her having sex with anybody else gets to me...but it doesn't help that I knew the 2 guys she last dated, and they were both douchebags.
I know I should be positive and focus on the fact that we are together now and love each other, but that damned thought keeps creeping into the back of my mind. But back there too I know I can't expect every girl I date to be a virgin or something, and I'm cool with that thought. Girls are gonna have had other partners besides me, but why does it fucking bother me so much???
I hear where you're coming from.. you know you shouldn't feel this way.. and you know you should focus on the future but you still get these bad taughts in your head about what she "might" have done in the past with someone else.
- I was (and to a point, still is) the same way
I think it started when I started to have real strong feelings about her.. I could care less when we were first dating. Only thing I can suggest is that when you start thinking about this, keep your mouth shut, don't get in a bad mood (and don't get mad at the girl) and change what you're doing to get that taught out of your head. Something will trigger those thaughts.. so get away from that or change the subject (it may be a song.. maybe an innocent comment from her about a certain place she was at.. or her talking about the past..) Just keep your mouth shut and talk to her about it because you're going to look like an idiot.
If you ask her, she might tell you shit you REALLY don't want to hear.
If you want to dig deeper.. I bet we both have insecurity issues from when we were breast fed or something.
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Your lack of confidence in yourself is not her problem....
I could care less about who my g/f has been with etc etc.... If she cheats on me, fuck her, there are plenty of "fish in the sea" and her being retarded, or who she has fucked in the past does not affect me in the bit.
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cuase you're focusing on the past - forget it everyone has one even you...
just realize she's with YOU and quit getting twisted over the dumb shit...
or is there some reason she making you feel insecure...
That's a good response. Sounds like a bit of jealousy on this distresssed young man's part, Badgixxer. I think a little bit of jealousy is a healthy sign of attraction but man, you have to let go of some of this, somehow. Like Badgixxer said stop focusing on the past. Everyone has a past, it makes them who they are today. Accept that and move on. Is she maybe talking about her exes a lot? That's never a good sign, you know... I'm sorry there's no real answer other than just finding your own personal way of letting this go.
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What you are witnessing is the emergence of your jealousy as you fall farther in love. Unless you can conquer it, as it moves into the present and future, it will ultimately kill your relationship, most probably ending by your jealous fears coming true. This is an important turning point in your relationship and a chance to conquer a personal demon.
Jim, you are a smart man. No seriously. That was probably the smartest post I've seen in a while, with the exception of CyberBiker of course- but since he reads these threads, I have to say that under threat of bodily harm
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What you are witnessing is the emergence of your jealousy as you fall farther in love. Unless you can conquer it, as it moves into the present and future, it will ultimately kill your relationship, most probably ending by your jealous fears coming true. This is an important turning point in your relationship and a chance to conquer a personal demon.
Jealousy is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Bingo!
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What you are witnessing is the emergence of your jealousy as you fall farther in love. Unless you can conquer it, as it moves into the present and future, it will ultimately kill your relationship, most probably ending by your jealous fears coming true. This is an important turning point in your relationship and a chance to conquer a personal demon.
Jealousy is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Yep. If the person is being accused of cheating long enough they might as well go out and do it anyway. Why not if the person thinks you are already?
What you are witnessing is the emergence of your jealousy as you fall farther in love. Unless you can conquer it, as it moves into the present and future, it will ultimately kill your relationship, most probably ending by your jealous fears coming true. This is an important turning point in your relationship and a chance to conquer a personal demon.
Jealousy is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
That's the best piece of advice! You'll have to learn how to work through it or it will just end up hurting/ending your relationship. I understand how you feel though.
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Yeah, I wouldn't consider talking to her about this. After all, she hasn't done anything wrong! Its just my weird state of mind or whatever you wanna call it. Bugs the crap outta me.
Thats the thing though...I'm not jealous of her currently. I know she isn't with anybody else right now, so its not really like that. Just this WTF thought that keeps popping into my head and bothering me for some reason.
Hell yeah it should bother you. I mean for all you know the last guy was someone like me who fucked the girl in every hole in every possible position you can phantom bringing her to an intense uninhibited orgasm which causes a tingle up her spine every time she remembers. To top it off right before the finale I’d probably put it in her mouth and let her swallow (I’m not creative). Hmm………….. now you have to kiss her. Oh well, just don’t think about it too much.
Ever get that thought in the back of your head? Current gf/bf with their ex.
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