Those that live with S/O's how do you guys handle bills??

Wreckless · 07-14-2005, 03:44 PM

Just wondering how you guys handle bills. I think that a 50/50 split is fair. My GF seems to think that it is not. Now maybe I'm being an asshole but it's not my fault that she makes less money than me. Why should I have to pay more and save less because she wants to save more? So do you guys put money in a pot and pay the bills? If so how much do each of you put in? Or is it just a 50/50 split. I think the split is fair.

Opinions?

Blackduc · 07-14-2005, 03:56 PM

Mine and my wife's money are seperate. We split the house payment and divide the bills among us. I pay the auto insurance she pays the cable and the verizon . Gotta have give and take in a relationship or arguments start braking out. You also start resenting the other one because you begin to feel that he/she isnt pulling their weight. Just my 2c.

Mr. Lesbian · 07-14-2005, 03:59 PM

Whatever the gf makes, I transfer over to my account. Then bills and mortgage, expenses etc just come out of my account.

And if your gf is like that now..... RUN. She's being fucking selfish. It'll get worst.

IllKneeGrow · 07-14-2005, 04:01 PM

That's why I let her live with her friend and then I just stay over there every night for free and she pays the rent and all the bills and I'm golden.

appleripper · 07-14-2005, 04:06 PM

What you could suggest is I make X % more so I'll pay X % more on the bills that would negate any type of unfairness. But I'm guessing she won't go for that either.

R6JUNKIE · 07-14-2005, 04:11 PM

we have seperate bank accounts. i pay all major bills except for the water bill and groceries. she pays for all her student loans and her credit card. when we go to movies or out to eat i pay. if we rent movies she pays. if on vacation i pay all gas hotel and any major pay outs, she pays for food and trinkets. major spending is split, like lately, i paid for new carpet and pool paint she bought new couch and chair. i got a big screen tv last year, she got new bedroom furnture. we split everything and there is less bitching untill. LOL her friends says its strange and were mairied and need to put all the money together. then i ask her what was the last fight her friend and her husband have about. she will reply to something to the effect of someone bounced a check because one forgot to tell the other they bought such and such and didnt write it down. or so and so bought a new riding boots and didnt clear it with his wife. we dont have problems like that. and everyone has there fun money.

Disclaimer
by the way my wife works and we dont have kids, so this situation may not be the best for you

sexyicecold · 07-14-2005, 04:11 PM

We've just shared our first bill - security deposit on a new place. It was split 50/50 (with the exception of $25). We plan to maintain a 50/50 split, but I suppose it never works out EXACTLY that way. As long as both are coming as close to their 1/2 as possible, that's all you can ask for. I, for one, am not going to sweat a bill that's $51, and ask for $25.50. Just give me 25 bucks. It's less hassle when you're not trying to be an anal POS about every bill.

appleripper · 07-14-2005, 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by sexyicecold

We've just shared our first bill - security deposit on a new place. It was split 50/50 (with the exception of $25). We plan to maintain a 50/50 split, but I suppose it never works out EXACTLY that way. As long as both are coming as close to their 1/2 as possible, that's all you can ask for. I, for one, am not going to sweat a bill that's $51, and ask for $25.50. Just give me 25 bucks. It's less hassle when you're not trying to be an anal POS about every bill.

For me I am an anal POS and was raised that way. Half is half. First it's 25 then its 20. Next thing you know you're paying the whole damn thing. SEXYICECOLD I am fairly certian you would not be this way as I have read your posts for the last 6 months. But that's how it starts.

Spike · 07-14-2005, 04:22 PM

My GF pays for everything pretty much, and we keep a record of it, and at the end of the month I pay for my half of everything. Or anything that I bought for myself, I pay for entirely. She pays most of the time when we go out, but sometimes I pay my own way... very seldom do I pay for her way as well.

Exhiliration · 07-14-2005, 04:26 PM

I don’t understand why anyone would want to live with their SO unless you are planning on having children. The way I see it, do everything down the middle and any money you have left after all bills is said and done is your money. I have investments and working on a lot of stuff right now, when I go out with my gf we split it 50/50, once in a while I’ll pay for her but in general we split it. I’m an investor though, if the person is significant to me and I want it to continue long term than I will split everything with them, give them nice gifts here and there, and take em out once in a while. However, if it’s a woman I’m just in for the ass than of course I will pay for her 100% to get what I want than end it shortly thereafter. Anyway, your SO sounds unreasonable maybe if you asked her what exactly she is saving up for than maybe you can better negotiate with her. Also, I know you didn’t mention this but I recommend you protect your assets, especially if you plan on getting married, it will be a financial disaster for you if things go sour.

gixxer27519 · 07-14-2005, 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by sexyicecold

We've just shared our first bill - security deposit on a new place. It was split 50/50 (with the exception of $25). We plan to maintain a 50/50 split, but I suppose it never works out EXACTLY that way. As long as both are coming as close to their 1/2 as possible, that's all you can ask for. I, for one, am not going to sweat a bill that's $51, and ask for $25.50. Just give me 25 bucks. It's less hassle when you're not trying to be an anal POS about every bill.

When i was engaged....my fiancee did the too the penny shit...man that pissed me off as i still payed when we went out...

Key word....

WAS

hybrid · 07-14-2005, 04:31 PM

Jesus Christ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Are we being serious?

First off, its a rough world out there. If you marry her ass you have to worry about her bills as they have officially become yours too. But if you aint married, forget it. She has to figure out if she can do this on her own or not. You aint her daddy.

For the girls saying they pay a straight 50% I sallute you. The days of being a goddamn leech (guy or girl)

Wreckless · 07-14-2005, 04:33 PM

thanks for the replies so far guys. I mean she works and we have no kids so thats not an issue. We have been together about 4 years now. I guess I wanted to make sure that I wasn't being an ass about the 50/50 thing. It's just what seems fair to me. Not that it's a big deal but I am seeing that it may be a problem as the topic seems to be coming up more often.

japbike · 07-14-2005, 04:58 PM

If I have the extra, I pay it. If he does, he pays it. In the 6 years I've been with my SO, we have never fought about money. Maybe a spat about what he bought and that he shouldn't of, but if he has the extra $$, why not? It's his $$....

I'd go with the % bit. She makes less, she pays less. Unless if she uses the cell more and all the calls are hers etc etc etc... then she needs to pay what she used.

Süsser Tod · 07-14-2005, 05:13 PM

I hate that about my GF. She always tries to make me pay for small things, like take her out for dinner, or pay her ticket on the movies, pay her for whatever...

small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing + small thing = BIG THING

But she can't seem to understand it, she just says "You should be glad I'm not like my sister" (That bitch used to date the guy that bought her the most expensive things, but now is married to a guy that is almost pathologically cheap)