how much trouble will i be in

[EEfz6]

Be extrememly careful. I had one that I was crazy about who wanted a ring, and I really thought I might end up marrying her, but I wasn't ready. Within a year, she was pregnant, and we were married. Seven years later with another child (2 total) to put through this hell, we are going through a divorce.

[gatorSMASH]

so toyota whats the verdict?

[afchicrider]

Originally Posted by jdesiano1

If you are not ready do not get her a ring. When her birthday comes around and she doesn't get it, I don't see her getting all pissy and being whiny. If she does chances are she is not mature enough to get married. Just my .02

+1


Only you know when you are ready to get engaged/married and that is a decision you have to make on your own (not based on the fact that she wants a ring for her birthday).

[chaos14]

tell her your not ready to be married cause you always promised yourself you would have a 3way before you got married

[Saml01]

Its too late to tell her anything, whatever you tell her now will only put you in hot water.

The guys here who are telling you to sit down and talk to her are promoting wishful thinking. You should have laid down the ground work for when you plan to pop the question before you moved in together. Now, no matter what you try to explain will translate as "im not ready and this was all a waste of your time".

[toyotapower]

Originally Posted by gatorSMASH

so toyota whats the verdict?

We talked, she's fine with it. I told her I wanted to do it on my own terms. She's just worried about me putting it off for a long time.

Its kinda funny, she is going to be 26 and the biological clock inside of her is just ringing like crazy. All of her friends are married and have kids. So she's just antsy.

Crisis Averted!

[jethead]

If you've been honest with her all along, and you've communicated your feelings about her to her all along and she's pissed at you still, you don't want to marry that kind of woman in the first place.

[toyotapower]

Originally Posted by jethead

If you've been honest with her all along, and you've communicated your feelings about her to her all along and she's pissed at you still, you don't want to marry that kind of woman in the first place.

luckily she's not pissed at me

[User Name]

Originally Posted by toyotapower

Its kinda funny, she is going to be 26 and the biological clock inside of her is just ringing like crazy. All of her friends are married and have kids. So she's just antsy.

I know simply saying it won't help, but she should relax a bit. In this day and age, 26 is YOUNG!!! My wife and I are both 35 and just had out first (and only) child this year. We're admittedly a little on the late side, but mid 20's is still plenty early.

[usernamedoug]

Originally Posted by toyotapower

luckily she's not pissed at me

luckily she's not pissed? im a firm believer that if two people are in love with each other, they will stay together because they want to be together, not because they're married.

You've lived together for 6 months, thats not even close to long enough to know what she's going to be like as a person over the next 50 years. Think logically, if she did/does get angry about you not proposing to her, picture her angry at you in the exact same way for, going out with your buddies, spending the night in the garage working on your bike, not emptying the dishwasher, not wanting to go to her mothers because the hockey game is on.

Sounds like you two are still smitten and quite possibly dont know what each other are really like as people.

Just remember, losing a girl is a hell of a lot easier to deal with then everything youve spent your life working for, and as someone once told me "them taking half of your stuff is a lie, it only starts at half, then a judge decides how much more she gets"

[cixelsydruos]

this girl does not sound like a keeper asking for an engagement ring on her birthday. Actually, a girl should never ask for an engagement ring.

[PorkCereal]

Originally Posted by toyotapower

the gf wants an engagement ring for her birthday, been hinting at it for a few months. fact is i'm just not ready for that yet. we've only been together for 13 months (lived together for 6). i definitly have every intention of marrying her.... it just feels too soon. so the question is how much trouble am i gonna be in for getting her something else.

Get her a promise ring and tell her you will give her the real thing when u fucking feel like it.
I gave my wife a celtic puzzle ring that its hard to take off without it coming apart. Used to be give to old celtic wives when there husbands went to war so they know if they were failthful. Everytime she took it off and it came apart id call her not so nice names jokingly. Buy my wife knows im a smartass and a dick anyway.

[beowulf2k]

Uuggg man her friends will be the doom of you as a couple. I have had some similar situations where the whole "well you arent married" tidbit comes out. I guess you will just have to wait it out and see what happens. Good luck with that.