Some background info for you guys.
She's my High School sweetheart.
She tends to have a 'lazy' personality.
She's an awesome girl everywhere but bed.
We've been together for 5 years.
Finally, I'm asking her hand in marriage in about a week
Ok, I love my girl to death. She is the greatest thing to happent o me, and even though she doesn't fulfill my sexual desires, she makes up for it in every other aspect. But...why can't I try to have the best of all the parts?
She's an interesting one. She doesn't mind talking sexual, but she doesn't back up her talk in bed. In fact, she never backs up
I seem to do close to 90% of the work.
I've gotten frustrated with the situation int eh past, and I have blown up about it. Everytime she admits she is not good enough to me in bed, often enough, and that she will try to change. but it doesn't change. I'd say we average 2 times a week, at best, and she often seems disinterested.
I used to spend lots of time with foreplay, fun, and everything of that sort, but the result was always the same.
The issues I have with her sexuality; We don't have sex enough, she's as adventurous as a board, and she often seems disinterested.
What I want to do is slowly get her up to par, BUT, she doesn't like porn, she doesn't like to try new positions, and she shuts down if I try to talk to her about things, because she gets overdramatic and offended easily.
WHat am I doing wrong? Should I be more persistent instead of backing down every time? Do I need to take the initiative during sessions and worry about stuff later.
This is after I've done a decent job on damage control [to the sex life, that is].
~Needs Sex talk with Sue from you guys
How to change a boring sex partner?
As I said, she's my keeper, I just need to modify one aspect and it's a heaven, I just need to figure out the key to it.
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