Im Hard to talk to and intimidating

[streetillegal]

i find beer works way better to boost moral...and about everymonth or 2 we will take back our copper scraps get about 700bones or so and take all the guys out for dinner with their wives gf's or w.e.....we were together almost 3yrs befor she moved up there

[dwkfym]

Originally Posted by streetillegal

My Ex just told me that a big problem with our relationship and well mostly me is that i was intimidating and hard to talk to and she felt it was hard to tell me how she felt and the things that were going through her mind...I never thought of myself as someone whos hard to talk to or intimidating at all...how can i be less intimidating and easier to talk to for future relationships as i know nothin is goin to happen again with my ex as i dont want her back after all this bull shit but i want to know what i can do to change that part of me

Sounds like she meant something else. If you've been dating her for a while, IMHO I think she had other reasons to be afraid to talk about whatever feeling she had. This can be anything from afraid of losing you, afraid of hurting you, afraid of disappointing you, etc. It probably has nothing to do with you, but it sounds like it speaks volumes of information about HER state of mind. But I think we need more information for a proper analysis of the situation.

If you were truly intimidating, she would not have stayed in a relationship with you. Unless you guys were more like fbuddies or just friends with benefits, and you guys just call yourselves to be in a relationship. (from reading that you were in a 3 yr relationship, this probably isn't the case)

Just keep in mind that often times it isn't really you that is the problem. Hope this helps

PS: take my advice with a grain of salt. I'm not really a "relationship type" person.

[Wakey]

Originally Posted by dwkfym

Sounds like she meant something else.

Where were you almost 2 years ago when this thread was created?

[stevo_x]

nice

future advice: listen first punch later.....they will feel a lot less intimidated...

[dwkfym]

Originally Posted by Wakey

Where were you almost 2 years ago when this thread was created?

Haha! I'm a dumbass. Made a classic forum n00b mistake.
I clicked on what I thought was a recent, interesting thread title because it showed up on this thing at the bottom of this page. Forgot to check the date... way to necro this thread dwkfym

[jerome_oneil]

Step 1.

Shut. The. Fuck. Up.

When she is talking to you, do not speak. Do not attempt to "solve" her problems. Do not offer up solutions. Do nothing but nod, smile, and agree with everything she says, even if she's being a vaccuous twat.

I found a great set of books the other day called "Porn for Women." It was basically pictures of hot guys running the vaccum cleaner, and looking into the camera with thought baloon's saying things like "I don't want to solve your problems, sweetie, I just want to listen...."

Buy that book.

[SloppyJoseph]

PITTB???


Cmon, 2nd page and no one mentioned it.....

[joe1971]

Originally Posted by jerome_oneil

Step 1.

Shut. The. Fuck. Up.

When she is talking to you, do not speak. Do not attempt to "solve" her problems. Do not offer up solutions. Do nothing but nod, smile, and agree with everything she says, even if she's being a vaccuous twat.

I found a great set of books the other day called "Porn for Women." It was basically pictures of hot guys running the vaccum cleaner, and looking into the camera with thought baloon's saying things like "I don't want to solve your problems, sweetie, I just want to listen...."

Buy that book.

Sooo saying things like;

why the hell you do you even pay attention to that shit

and this has got what to do with me

what where you talking about (repeatedly)

I'm trying to listen to the game


These thing are bad?

[Wakey]

Originally Posted by jerome_oneil

Step 1.

Shut. The. Fuck. Up.

When she is talking to you, do not speak. Do not attempt to "solve" her problems. Do not offer up solutions. Do nothing but nod, smile, and agree with everything she says, even if she's being a vaccuous twat.

I found a great set of books the other day called "Porn for Women." It was basically pictures of hot guys running the vaccum cleaner, and looking into the camera with thought baloon's saying things like "I don't want to solve your problems, sweetie, I just want to listen...."

Buy that book.

I was 100% with you until you mentioned the book

[leemajaz]

i call b/s on her part. how in the hell can you be all those things yet she still got with you?

[prodigal27]

Sounds like you have a habit of bringing your work home with you, as far as attitude goes. I used to do that a lot, learned to leave it at the bench.

[ZxHunteR]

old thread

OP needs to become self aware

[ghostriders999]

Originally Posted by streetillegal

My Ex just told me that a big problem with our relationship and well mostly me is that i was intimidating and hard to talk to and she felt it was hard to tell me how she felt and the things that were going through her mind...I never thought of myself as someone whos hard to talk to or intimidating at all...how can i be less intimidating and easier to talk to for future relationships as i know nothin is goin to happen again with my ex as i dont want her back after all this bull shit but i want to know what i can do to change that part of me

man at your age i was the same way except i would drop someone in a heart beat and never bat a eye,,,, everyone said i looked mad all the time,,,

but anyway,,, you'll chill out with age,,,when your around ppl (anyone really) alway think of how theey're going to see you,

i always say HEY HOW YOU DOING? most of the time now even if i just know of them,,, and man you'll have alot more friends and get alot farther with ppl and relationships.,, i wish you all the luck in you changing how ppl percieve you,,,

everyones always remembers the butthole,,, and everyone always wants to be around the nice guy



OMG AN OLD THREAD HOLY SHEET BATMAN

[Exodus]

Originally Posted by Czolgosz

J/k dude. Seriously don't change, unless you're a child molesterer or some sort of axe murderer.

Unless you are good at them, in which case, carry on....

[SloppyJoseph]

Ohhh sweet sweet old thread resurrection!!