Need help/advice

Kaiser Soze · 05-02-2006, 09:35 AM

On getting back in the game. I have ended a 4 1/2 year relationship and some sex and or bit of fun with the opposite sex wouldnt do me any harm.

Ive never really had trouble talking to girls, but getting my head around actually going after a girl is difficult, since I havent done it in so long. Since im so used to seeing girls as "just friends" I find it hard to tell which ones are interested and which ones are being nice.

To put it another way, ive proved ive got the guts, but I still want to pick my battles and I think I need a little advice.

hybrid · 05-02-2006, 11:15 AM

Your mission should you choose to accept it..........

Make eye contact with every single female you can and say.........."HI"

Thats it for the next two weeks. I dont care is she is jabba the fucking hut....just get into the habit of approaching strangers of the opposite sex.

Then when you can approach anyone, we can talk about how you know if she is interested.

ASCI_Blue · 05-02-2006, 11:22 AM

Dammit. I hate you hybrid, you beat me to it. fucker.

Kaiser Soze · 05-02-2006, 08:21 PM

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Originally Posted by hybrid

Your mission should you choose to accept it..........

Make eye contact with every single female you can and say.........."HI"

Thats it for the next two weeks. I dont care is she is jabba the fucking hut....just get into the habit of approaching strangers of the opposite sex.

Then when you can approach anyone, we can talk about how you know if she is interested.

Righto. Im taking you up on your "mission". Ill be posting back here in a coupla weeks.

007SHOWSTOPPER · 05-02-2006, 11:02 PM

You get those 'friends' of yours to set you up with a like minded buddy of theirs...you take that girl for a few drinks....you got you a f-buddy then...thats my take on it...huge advantage for you to be 'friends' with girls...now use it to score.

deathdealer · 05-02-2006, 11:24 PM

If you are shy try drinking a bit first, not to get drunk just enough to take the edge off. Then when you are chattin up a chick you want to hook up with, act as if you have already slept with her... By this I mean, stand a little closer to her than you normally would, lightly touch her arm/hand at different times during the Convo and while talking to her... I dont want to say talk dirty to her because if you are too forward this will turn off all but the biggest of sluts... But try to mix in a few remarks that could be taken as sexual OR not sexual (keep in mind this isn't always what you say but it could be how you say it). I cant think of a good example for you, but if you can work this in If the girl is feelin you in a physical way she will respond to the sexual conintation, if she isnt feelin that then she wont even catch the sexual shit and just respond to you as a friend would... Its along the lines of power of suggestion/ Subliminal messaging shit. anyone that has taken psych 101 knows what I mean. If you say something with a double meaning the person you are speaking with will hear the meaning they feel is most relivant to the current conversation... Just dont be too direct... More chicks will respond to you than ya think!

Kaiser Soze · 05-03-2006, 12:24 AM

^ Thanks man.

LOL should I be taking advice from someone called "deathdealer." I want to F' em not kill em.

Just messin with ya, I know what you're saying, I already do that a bit, the difference is, now I really want it to go somewhere instead of just flirting a bit. What you say makes sense.

ASCI_Blue · 05-03-2006, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by deathdealer

But try to mix in a few remarks that could be taken as sexual OR not sexual (keep in mind this isn't always what you say but it could be how you say it). I cant think of a good example for you, but if you can work this in If the girl is feelin you in a physical way she will respond to the sexual conintation, if she isnt feelin that then she wont even catch the sexual shit and just respond to you as a friend would... Its along the lines of power of suggestion/ Subliminal messaging shit. anyone that has taken psych 101 knows what I mean. If you say something with a double meaning the person you are speaking with will hear the meaning they feel is most relivant to the current conversation... Just dont be too direct... More chicks will respond to you than ya think!

Going off the part about sexual remarks and the like this is where you take anything like 'bed', 'shower', or the like as a come on. EG: "I'm tired I need to get to bed." You'd come back with "Woaaah there killer. I don't know how good a kisser you are yet, and you want me in bed already?"

Hell I was chatting with a girl just the other day, she said something to the effect of being all muscle and that's all there was. I wasn't fully on my game (long day at work) so the best I could come up with "is that an offer to show me?" She got it and shot it down, but hey win some lose some.

Kaiser Soze · 05-03-2006, 10:54 PM

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Originally Posted by hybrid

Your mission should you choose to accept it..........

Make eye contact with every single female you can and say.........."HI"

Thats it for the next two weeks. I dont care is she is jabba the fucking hut....just get into the habit of approaching strangers of the opposite sex.

Then when you can approach anyone, we can talk about how you know if she is interested.

Ok I feel I need to accelerate the program......for the simple reason that there is a total hottie in my class and Id say shes interested. But then again what the fuck would I know Ive been in this relationship for so long right?

I can initiate a chat/dialogue no worries. How do I make it go further? Eg get her number or arrange to meet up outside of class?

bassholic · 05-03-2006, 11:07 PM

The meeting is going to be interesting with a class mate. Find something out about her maybe some attire she has on and make fun of it or her in some flirtatious way, then leave with both parties laughing. Next encounter still find something 'smart' to say and finish off with last time we talekd you forgot to give me your number or something along those lines. There are many approaches and its not a one fits all choice.

toyotapower · 05-03-2006, 11:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Kaiser Soze

LOL should I be taking advice from someone called "deathdealer." I want to F' em not kill em.

so take advice from the sexybikerpimp! eh.... i got nothin. i just pull up next to them and tap the back seat of my bike.

bzbatl · 05-04-2006, 10:33 AM

Saying "hi" always seemed to work for me. Girls like it when you acknowledge their existance. Remember to talk to her boobs when she starts a conversation.

I say give them the sad story about how your bitch ex dissed you for another girl and you are so sad and lonely and just want to snuggle.

Pity sex is ok for you.

jbot · 05-07-2006, 07:43 AM

walk-by pinching on their ass, and listening for a surprised but pleased moan will help you identify the freaks. freaks=good. unless they like to be the S rather than the M. Those you have to break.

...i'm kidding. i have no clue what i just uttered. good luck getting some snatch.

Oni · 05-07-2006, 02:01 PM

Be confident, not sappy. Look them in the eye (makes them wonder why you're not staring at her chest, she'll try harder for your attention). If you have to talk about the ex, keep it short and civil. Don't become friends with her. Otherwise you'll end up in the "Friends Bin".

ASCI_Blue · 05-07-2006, 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Oni

Be confident, not sappy. Look them in the eye (makes them wonder why you're not staring at her chest, she'll try harder for your attention). If you have to talk about the ex, keep it short and civil. Don't become friends with her. Otherwise you'll end up in the "Friends Bin".

Hm..While part of me agrees about the friends, part of me does not. On the one hand you probably will get tossed into the friends bin. On the other hand you might get lucky enough with such a strange approach that it'll work vastly in your favor. EG: This chick is hot right? So you make her your bestest friend on the face of the planet. Once you do this she'll start telling all of her friends just how awesome a dude you are and they'll all want your dick. Then you can start going on 'dates' with said best friend and she'll tell all the girls she runs into just how awesome you are and next thing you know all those girls will want your dick too.

However you are never able to so much as kiss this chick you're interested in. So it does have it's downsides.