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After a long firey 3 yr relationship with my girlfriend, I think it is over. Last night she told me that she loves me and that I'm perfect but that she can't get over the past, and she thinks we want different things in life.
So I guess this is it. It hurts like a mother...
How many of you folks have been able to break up like this on good terms, where you just agree that it is time to part ways?
Does it work, can you maintain friendship? Is it best just to be apart for a time. It seems so hard when your life is so intertwined with someone else, especially after expecting to live the rest of your days with this person.
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Sounds like you fucked up previously.
My take on the subject is that if I got serious with someone and then it had to end.........there is no reason to be friends. I wouldnt dislike you so much that it had to end if it wasnt serious in my eyes.
But hey, ask everyone, Im a fucking asshole!
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that sucks bro! me and my g/f of a little over 2years just broke up about 3 or 4 weeks ago. i fucked in the past and we've been trying to work past it but it really wasnt happening. i finally ended it and id be lieing if i said i didnt miss her, but i do realize that we were not right for each other. better to end it sooner than later, now go out and find someone better.
My current wife and I did that when we were dating, that lasted only about 6 months and than we got back together and were marrie 2 months after we got back together.
Been married going on 7 years now in June.
Good luck man.
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Just walk away. Don't look back. Someday, if she really thinks you're the one, she'll come lookin' for you. But, don't "pine away" for her either - enjoy and explore your freedom again. Have A LOT of fun, and don't get tied down. Sew your oats, so to speak - and then, when she comes runnin' back to you (if she does), then you have the upper hand!
hmmm. thats a bit of a toughie. imho, she has found someone else, and doent want to hurt YOUR feelings. Get out while you still have your pride.
Alternatively, she might just be checkin' to see if you still care about her. Any way you look at it, you had a few good years together---dont wreck that memory by keeping in touch with her.
Good luck.
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I stayed good friends with an ex when we broke up on relatively good terms - neither of us really fucked up, I just wasn't happy with my situation and needed to change my life.
2 years later with a S.O. in between for both of us, we got back together. We broke up because she couldn't keep her mouth shut the first time we split... ran her trap to her parents about how shitty I treated her which wasn't true. I couldn't work past that with her family because they wrote the book on holding grudges. If she hadn't of done that, we'd probably be getting married.
It can work. It's not the answer for every situation. If you guys can be friends, it's nice to have someone close that knows you as well as she does... after 3 years of being together. AND, you might get the occasional "I'm horny, let's fuck" call... if you were any good
If you'd really like to remain on good terms with each other don't talk to her (no e-mail, phone, etc...) for at least six months. Take that time and move on. Discover how you've changed. Long term relationships always change you. Learn something new, meet new people, do something you enjoy that you stopped doing. Doing someone new doesn't hurt either. Just don't rebound. At the end of that six months, see where you stand. Good luck.
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Sorry to hear about your breakup but once trust has been breached it's almost impossible to get things back on track. Especially if it continues to be a point of contention. I've never had an amicable break up when I've been in a serious relationship but I have been able to become friends again later on down the road when I've seen an ex again. And I've actually remained friends with a few over the years, good friends at that. It probably worked out that way because we were both already in other relationships and the hurt was behind us.
Good luck!!
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I suppose all of you are right and I should just let go of the whole situation. It just seems so damn hard. It breaks my heart to see her cry, and I miss her all the time. My buds all tell me just to give it time, I suppose that is all I can do.
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Wait a LONG time before trying the friend thing, it's just too painful and hard to pretend that nothing more was there.
You shouldnt even be allowed to post on these subjects. If anyone I know has problems with the opposite sex, its you Shorty.
I aint hating Im merely stating the truth.
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You know what, I'm really sick of hearing that from you. If you don't like my posts then block me but stop talking shit. That's all you do. I'm perfectly happy and in a relationship right now. It's been awhile, and there aren't any problems. I've made it past the beginning of my usual "bad" relationship areas. I had one huge wreck of a relationship and suddenly I'm incapable (which by the way he's asking about something I went through post-break up with that guy) of giving my own opinion/advice on a situation. Fuck you.
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