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Went to another date with the girl I talked about on other thread. Well, we ended up kissing on her car after having a krispy kreme
Then kinda serious conversation came up, she wanted to know the name of my ex, how long I had dated her, etc. And then she asked me "you know this has been hard for me?".
Basically, she had a relationship over a year ago, and she was hurt, then got involved with a friend, and that didn't turned well either.
She told me she loves to spend time with me, she likes talking and kissing me, but she is not sure what to do, not even sure if she wants a relationship.
Where do I stand now?
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Sounds like she is trying to figure out how YOU feel about getting into a relationship. She doesn't want to commit to feeling one way or another about you two as a couple until she knows whether you are going to reject the idea or not.
+1, and I'm sure she doesn't wanna get hurt again. you're on the block now, not the kind of girl you wanna cut an run from. she's probly very emotional and will tend to overthink things. keep your wits about ya and play attention and you'll be fine.
finally cracked her shell did you? You stud. I agree with Acalliste's um..really big word to describe something she figured out...
Anywho what you ought to do now is not worry so much about what was said, but making her enjoy herself when she's with you.
__________________ jim schmidtIf you didn't spank her hard during first date sex, you've already lost the battle, you wuss and pussy! ChaunceyAs we speak, speedy is in class right now learning about anatomy. He had a few questions regarding these things called "testicles" and something called a "spine".
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Originally Posted by lawson
ask her how she feels about anal! if she says no. do it anyways.
I see no flaws in this plan of action.
If she's looking for stability, show her that you can provide it - without being overbearing. Just take it easy, and try to figure out what she wants. Don't lie to her, but don't go spilling your guts to her either.
If she's looking for stability, show her that you can provide it - without being overbearing. Just take it easy, and try to figure out what she wants. Don't lie to her, but don't go spilling your guts to her either.
Well, I can't lie, and that she already figured out.
Heck, I can't even date two persons at the same time. Last time I tried I was glad I didn't mixed their names, but for the life of me I couldn't figure out what I had done/told to each one.
Last night, talking on the phone, she said "I know you are 27", WTF? How the hell did you knew? "You told me". Damn!!! I'm dating only one girl and I can't remember what I've told her!
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Wich is kinda ridiculous as at this point I'm not worried about PIIT, but about getting her to fall for me.
So, any more advise? I really could use it! I've never been in this kind of situation.
Last night we went to the theatre, it was cool. Then I drove her home, and it kinda went downhill from there, she said she was hungry, so she wanted to go home. Offered her going for dinner, she refused "I only want a glass of milk"...
It was a long way to her house, about 35 miles, and she even got motion sickness... Tried to cheer her up doing some maniac stuff on the car, wich kinda worked, but I think scared her too much.
At her home she did had the glass of milk, plus a sandwich. I was like, you didn't told me anything about the sandwidch, wich kinda pissed her off. She didn't said anything, but I could tell she dind't felt comfortable. Once she told me it would be extremely hard for me to make her accept me buying her something, now I guess that includes dinner.
Then we went to her sister's place (she lives across the street), and there was her sister, my brother and a friend of my brother. My brother's friend is kinda weird, a good looking guy that can't get a date (a really bad case of attitude, his looks get him girls, but his attitude makes them run away as fast as they can), so the situation was kinda akward.
When I left I told her "I'm going to miss you", and, I can't find a real traduction to what I said "te quiero" that is kinda a toned down "I love you" that you can use with friends, family or a date without being a "I love you".
Now something that kinda bugs me, we spend too much time kissing, I think we spend way more time kissing than talking. We mostly talk on the phone, but not when we are on a date. That does seem kinda weird to me.
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dude..dude...DUDE. duuude...why, why WHY did you say you'd miss her? why did you OFFER to take her out when you could have volunteered her to take YOU out.
Also what's wrong with kissing? People only screw things up when they talk. The less talking the better I say!
__________________ jim schmidtIf you didn't spank her hard during first date sex, you've already lost the battle, you wuss and pussy! ChaunceyAs we speak, speedy is in class right now learning about anatomy. He had a few questions regarding these things called "testicles" and something called a "spine".
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dude..dude...DUDE. duuude...why, why WHY did you say you'd miss her? why did you OFFER to take her out when you could have volunteered her to take YOU out.
Also what's wrong with kissing? People only screw things up when they talk. The less talking the better I say!
I did it to reassure her I'm not going to hurt her, or that was my intention, as she is the kind of insecure girl, afraid of getting hurt, that overthinks things. Kinda following Acalliste's advise.
Now, it seems that I'm royally screwing it up, that I've understand, what would be a good action plan? I need more than a "you = dumb".
About the kissing thing, well, she is kinda intellectual, well, really intelectual, so sometimes I'm worried I can't offer any "interesting" conversation for her.
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Last edited by Süsser Tod : 03-27-2006 at 11:46 AM.
What does that mean?
...one pecker at a time.
