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Finally I broke up with my gf. Should have done it a long time ago, but this time I managed to grab my balls and do it.
Now, there is this girl at work that I think I might have a chance with. Problem is, I don't have a clue about how to aproach her. She is a newbie on a different team, on the oposite side of the floor, so basically if I walk over there I must have a reason to.
Then, as we work on different teams, I can't think of a "reason" to talk to her.
Any ideas, tips or tricks that may help me?
[Update:]Well, it's over, found out she has a boyfriend. I was talking with another coworker, about the newbies (two have left the job, in three weeks), and we talked about her, he told me how everyone @ that team was trying to hook up with her, but she turned down everyone because of her BF.
Sad...[/Update]
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Last edited by Süsser Tod : 02-12-2006 at 06:46 PM.
Look at what she's wearing, and go over and say "I couldn't help but notice, I really like your (earring, necklace, shoes, etc). My name is so-and-so." Chat for a few moments, and say "give me your number, I'll give you a call some time" and get the hell out. If she doesn't give it to you, you know where she stands from the start. Confidence is the key here. Try to be light and funny, if she makes an opening don't be afraid to jab her with a little humor about herself.
Workplace+Dating=impending doom!! Don't do it!! I know from experience...if things don't work out...work can get wierd in a hurry.
There's a girl I work with right now that would be great for me, but the risk/reward is too great. We even talked about it and both of us agreed that it would be a difficult situation were we to actually date.
Just walk up to her desk, look her DEAD in the eyes, give her a head nod, and then grunt. Turn around and walk away. All done with the straightest face possible. Good luck and may the force be with you.
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Just walk up to her desk, look her DEAD in the eyes, give her a head nod, and then grunt. Turn around and walk away. All done with the straightest face possible.
I couldn't even get though reading that sentense with a straight face.
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Don't let it get in the way of a good time.
Then, as we work on different teams, I can't think of a "reason" to talk to her.
You're interested in her, right? Well that's the best "reason" of all. Just be up front and honest. Let he know you are interested. If she shoots you down, then at least you won't spend the next 4 weeks wondering about this situation. You can move on to the next target.
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Maturity is vastly overrated.
Don't let it get in the way of a good time.
Dude just go talk to her and say "Hi" I am "insert your name", and walk away. Keep youself as mysterious and interesting. ALSO during that time maintain eye contact and act confident. You may want to throw something funny in there like "yeah don't ask me for help b/c I hear I charge too much..GOODLUCK!" Leave it at that, wait a day or two then talk to her again. Keep it FUN dude and PLAY with her.
Thought of something else too. If you go up and tlak to her first tell her "Since you are new you are supposed to introduce yourself to me first, but I'll let it slide this one time."
You may want to check to see if she is wearing any wedding bands too!
screw what these guys are saying... She's there to work, not be picked up on. Don't try any cheesy one liners or club dating strategy. Find a way to bump in to her and start a conversation on a PROFESSIONAL level, then move toward the more personal stuff. If you start with her sounding like you're trying to be funny, witty, or otherwise gauge her social interest in you, you're going to get put in your place and she's going to be going home with your buddy in accounting.
screw what these guys are saying... She's there to work, not be picked up on. Don't try any cheesy one liners or club dating strategy. Find a way to bump in to her and start a conversation on a PROFESSIONAL level, then move toward the more personal stuff. If you start with her sounding like you're trying to be funny, witty, or otherwise gauge her social interest in you, you're going to get put in your place and she's going to be going home with your buddy in accounting.
I like my idea better.
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Agreed. How many people HONESTLY, just go to work to work...I mean seriously..come on man lighten up some. Life is too short to worry about being "Professional" ALL the time. Just make her laugh and have fun
Look at what she's wearing, and go over and say "I couldn't help but notice, I really like your (earring, necklace, shoes, etc).
I wouldn't try this one in the workplace. A freudian slip or verbal misunderstanding could be taken as sexual harassment, and that's the last thing you want at work.
"I like your shirt" could be taken as "I couldn't help but notice your ample cleavage". And so forth.
Girl @ work, need help
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