enigma

ajalbers · 01-18-2006, 11:54 AM

Here is one to ponder over. If you have some time to kill, I could use some feedback on this situation.

I was working as a restaurant manager and started dating one of my employees. At first everything was "Amazing". She had everything I want in a life long partner.

We dated for 3 months and then moved in together b/c our leases were up at the same time and decided to just go for it. We were both new to the city and didn't know many people. It was a big move but we felt our friendship was strong enough that if we broke up we could work it out.

One sunny day in august I had lunch with my ex- who i dated for 6 years- on my way home I crashed my bike- some dumbass turned into on coming traffic and cut me off- but thats another story for some other time.

So I stopped by my gf's work and told her where I was and what had happened. Since that day she said she couldn't trust me. Which I have never lied to her about anything. Me and my ex are very good friends. My ex got engaged so we had luch to catch up.

My gf and I broke up a couple of months ago and things were fine untill I started to "find things out". She likes to chat with people online. She had meet someone a year ago before we got together. She didn't talk to him when we were together b/c it made me upset b/c they always talk about sex. At the same time she didn't want me talking to my ex because it made her jealous. This was before the luch and accident.

She told me that she has never had sex with this guy she meet online whom she drove 3 hours to see periodically before we dated. Once we broke up they started talking again. She said he was a player and she wouldn't waste her time with him.

I read an instant message on her computer that talked about sex and how he only lasted 4 minutes the first time and the 2nd he lasted forever, blah blah blah. This was 2 days before x-mas. I confronted her about this and she said they only had a make out session.

But their was another instant message with one of her friends from home saying that she had sex over x-mas. Now i'm starting to think that she has lied to me this whole time we dated. What else could she have been up to?

So I called her out on being dishonest with me and that I know she slept with him and the fact that she told me she wasn't going to waste her time. basically she told me to F-off and that i am being an a-hole. Is this true? i'm i being unreasonable? i know I shouldn't have read her stuff on her computer but I knew something wasn't adding up and she wouldn't tell me the truth.

We haven't talked in a week (and we live together) and I don't know what to do about the situation. i feel that if we could work things out that I would want to be with her again. i can't stop thinking about it and she won't talk to me. I just don't know what to think or do. Can anyone help?

nitrotc3drifter · 01-18-2006, 12:07 PM

i would say she is up to no good, its the ones who are jeolous who are the cheaters, because they know they cant trust themselves, so why should they trust you.....i have seen it many times growing up

RugbyCanada · 01-18-2006, 12:13 PM

she's cheatin on ya bro, and has been for quite some time. There is no question about that at all. Get out asafp! And make a mental note to not screw yer employees--you tryin to get sued by a jealous ex or something?

bush · 01-18-2006, 12:17 PM

Move all your shit out while she's at work. She'll come home to an empty apartment and be like, "WTF OWNED"

malik ross · 01-18-2006, 12:55 PM

ajalbers · 01-18-2006, 01:28 PM

i went to lunch with my ex to catch up on life. I didn't think my gf would flip out if i was up front with her about it. My ex and I dated for 6 years. We grew up together. I figured my gf would be understanding of one luch date. We weren't togehter over x-mas. But the point was I asked her if she had sex with him and she lied. i don't care if she did i just wanted the truth. If she lied about that, then what else did she lie about. I was trying to test her. And yes we are still living together. I saw her stuff on her computer b/c i was using her computer, came acrossed it and it caught my attention. It was saved on her desktop. Its not like i hacked into her computer looking for this information.

RugbyCanada · 01-18-2006, 01:32 PM

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Originally Posted by ajalbers

i don't care if she did i just wanted the truth. I was trying to test her. And yes we are still living together. .

ahem---your a pussy. No offence. Get yerself checked for V.D., and move out! How the hell can you stay with someone who cheats on you?? Jesus man, you should care if she did!

ajalbers · 01-18-2006, 01:37 PM

But we weren't together when she did. At least for this one instance that I know about. And i can't move out until june. My name is on the lease. She says shes is going to move out, but i don't know how she will do that. Her credit is crap and she doesn't have enough money. Her car got repo'd last month. But i'm trying to get her out.

bush · 01-18-2006, 01:41 PM

Yeah, fuck the bitch. If she can't keep up with rent, kick her out with the help of the landlord.

ajalbers · 01-18-2006, 01:53 PM

How do i get her to tell me the truth? I need some freakin closer from her. I want to move on and stop thinking about it. I would like to at least salvage a friendship out of this. Any ideas?

OFFICER737 · 01-18-2006, 01:56 PM

Personally........send her packing, she is an adult she made the bed now she needs to sleep in it. Closure is okay but not really required for this.....chalk it up to shit happens and move on.

RugbyCanada · 01-18-2006, 02:01 PM

you want friendship, get a puppy. Your on the lease, shes not--kick her to curb, litteraly and figureatively.

ajalbers · 01-18-2006, 02:04 PM

we got a dog and Im hoping that she takes her.

hybrid · 01-18-2006, 02:36 PM

Your gay.

She is a hooker

First off, if you were half a man you would have told her you were doing what you did with your ex before you did.

Then of course you pussed out, gave new girl reason to be bigger whore than she already is.

Now you want closure? Go sew your vagina shut you pussy!!!!

ajalbers · 01-18-2006, 02:44 PM

My gf was at work when my ex called me to see if I wanted to meet her for lunch. I couldn't get ahold of my gf. I wasn't going to be a pussy and not go to luch b/c i was affraid that my gf would be jealous of something retarded like this. I didn't hide anything from my gf. I told her where i was. If a was a pussy i would have kept it from her. But instead i was a man and told the truth.