Need help with a girl in the dorms.

liveforspeed · 01-02-2006, 01:10 AM

So i live in the dorms and started dating a girl that also lives in them. We have been dating for about a month now and im not sure if i like her as much as i thought or if i am just using her for her body. the problem i have is that it is almost like we are living together but with out knowing each other for a significant amount of time. I almost feel obligated to stay dating her because i am confused if i truly like her. I dont want to be a pig and just keep using her, so im asking for your guys oppinions on what i should do. keep in mind that if things go sour she only live 3 rooms and 1 floor away from me so life could get a little weird. Well thats my story if anything needs explaining ill do it since i always have a hard time expressing myself on thease forums.

BurnMyHeartDown · 01-02-2006, 01:15 AM

Hmmm. You're already hitting it. Keep hitting it until you figure out where you stand, then be honest with the girl. Maybe take a break from sex, and just chat. My girl and I were just channel surfing the other night and I learned some about her, and she learned stuff about me just from talking. Then you can see if you really like her or not.

Beau · 01-02-2006, 08:19 AM

At least for me, no matter how much I THINK I love a girl, after I have sex with her my true feelings surface. Unfortunately I discover that I was really only lusting after her body and not the rest of the package most of the time and the feelings diminish very quickly afterwards.

My opinion is that if you don't know for sure, then don't question it and just let it flow. You don't know what SHE wants from you either afterall. Most girls have at least 5 other guys lined up and ready to go and just like to fuck. She could be just testing you out, test drive. Or maybe she just likes to fuck and feels better about it if she can confidently call it a sincere relationship so she needs that scapegoat. Dating, women, and sex is probably the most complicated thing on Earth.

hybrid · 01-02-2006, 11:33 AM

Okay..........

Look man, your single biggest problem is that you let things escalate to where they are now in such a short time. You are in a tough situation.

If you let her know that you arent sure how you "really" feel about her.....she may bail because its a shitty thing to think about.

Then of course you dont really want to lie to the girl now do you?

If I was in your shoes, Id be semi-honest. Tell her that you love hanging out with her but you see a pattern in yourself and you dont want to have it affect your relationship with her. Tell her that you allow things to move to fast and that it ends up burning out because of it.

Explain that you want to "be her boyfriend" but you also need to be alone sometimes so that you dont end up in a shitty situation with her.

If you act like you are somewhat intelligent and that you only have her best interests in mind for her in the long run, she ought to be really thankfull you arent such a fuck stick.

As far as using her...........dude, grow the fuck up. Highschool kids do that shit (or really big fucking pussies)

If you want some ass with nothing else behind it..........tell the girl. Stop lieing to chicks to get some pussy. Girls want to fuck everybit as much as guys do. The longer you make them believe its always about feelings the harder it gets on them to let loose.

Fucking amateurs...............

bill · 01-04-2006, 11:23 AM

great advice hybrid i agree 100%

cruzinZ · 01-10-2006, 10:46 AM

Well the good side is school is almost over. I'm sure that you'll be moving out of the dorms pretty soon. Just keep at it for now. Even if you do break up it wont be long before the school year is over and she's out of your life. It might be kinda aquard to see her around if you break up but you'll get over it. Girls want sex just as much as guys so its a two way street. My advice is dont ruin a booty call that is less then 30 seconds away.

DickieFL · 01-10-2006, 11:08 PM

maybe she's using you for your body

that's a win-win situation

you really won't know the real deal until you sit down and talk to her.

WannaMoto · 01-10-2006, 11:55 PM

Edit: (Negetive and non-funny statement)

I vote that you just talk with her, and find out if it's worth staying. Then make a decision and stick with it.

Twisted Sister · 01-11-2006, 07:57 AM

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Originally Posted by liveforspeed

keep in mind that if things go sour she only live 3 rooms and 1 floor away from me so life could get a little weird.

Should have thought of that in the first place, not after the fact.

Moses · 01-13-2006, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by liveforspeed

...or if i am just using her for her body

I'm surprised no one has said this till now...