How would you say "I love you"?

zz_3.14_zz · 12-27-2005, 02:02 PM

How would you tell your girl/guy you loved them? Would you just come right out and say it, or would you just drop hints until they mentioned something about it.

I'm asking this only because I reacently told my girl that I loved her. It was kinda funny the way it happened.

She and I had just gotten back from lunch and we were just chillen watching the tube, and she let out a *sigh* and I was like "Whats up". She just gave me a kinda snippy "...nothing...why, is there anything you wanna tell me...?" I had said to her the night before that there was something on my mind, but I didn't want to talk about it just then. So, after she asked if there was anything on my mine I said yes, but I didn't know how she was going to react. She was then like "well is it something bad?" I said no, I hope not.

Finally, I just said. "I think I love you" Then she starts laughing. Here I sit thinking "wtf bitch, I just say's I love's you and shit..." But then she is like, "Is that what you have been such a pain in the ass for?" Well, she went in the bathroom and when she came out, she lies on me and tells me that im crazy and insane and then I hear, "I love you to".

From this point on she has been a totally new chick. Pritty much back to the one that I started dateing.

ASCI_Blue · 12-27-2005, 05:35 PM

I would never say it. Maybe once or twice in a 6 month period. I'm dating the girl in question, and doing so exclusivly. That's all she needs.

nystateboy15 · 12-27-2005, 06:43 PM

ASCI blue,
why wouldnt you say, "I love you," to a chick... If you care for a girl alot and have alot of emotions for her and she gives it back .... Then you are falling in love. Theres nothing wrong for saying it. Shit happens for a reason; like the saying, Rather loved and lost then never loved at all. If you fall in love within 3 months theres still nothing wrong with saying it. You have to be secure with eachother thats all.

ASCI_Blue · 12-27-2005, 07:48 PM

You are of course correct but why say it at all? Sure it boosts her ego, makes her feel good, and on occasion feels good to self. However it's also something that the more vile women can use against you. In short if I'm dedicating my time toward one woman with zero others involved beyond just being friends (and by that I mean girls that I'd bring my woman around) this says more than three words ever could.

I'm at the point now I really don't care what my girlfriends do. If they want to kick it with their boys then so be it. If she fucks up, she's replacable. Although this sounds cold and unfeeling I'm putting my trust into someone and if she chooses to hang herself she isn't worth my time anyway, good to get her out of the way in a month or two rather than a divorce years down the road. On the flip side of the coin I should be able to hang with any chicks I choose for whateve reasons I choose. If my girl doesn't trust me she's not worth my time. This is part of the reason my last and I broke up. In the end my women need to be able to say to me (and mean it!) "I don't give a fuck if he's out with Jenna Jamison herself, he'll come back to me." A girl who can do that and mean it is probably the one who will bear my children because she has the confidence and the strength of personality I demand in a person.

nystateboy15 · 12-27-2005, 08:28 PM

I do here you there man, that understandible ....I gotcha now

vtimm · 12-27-2005, 09:46 PM

Your best bet in life is to be honest and say it if you feel it. And, you can never say it too much. No tough guy / girl game playing. Either of you could be gone tomorrow - in life there are no guarantees for tomorrow. One just never knows...

acalliste · 12-27-2005, 09:55 PM

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Originally Posted by vtimm

Your best bet in life is to be honest and say it if you feel it. And, you can never say it too much. No tough guy / girl game playing. Either of you could be gone tomorrow - in life there are no guarantees for tomorrow. One just never knows...

Exactly! I tell everyone I love that I love them, every chance I get. It's not about power or control. It's about letting someone you love know that they are loved. No bullshit, no mind games. Just connecting with those who are important to you.

HUTSCBR · 12-28-2005, 05:51 AM

I'd rather tell a person now then wish I had and regret not telling them if something was to happen to them.

First itme it came up with my now wife was like this. We had just gotten off the bike after a ride to breakfast on a Sat. morning. I turned around and smacked her on the ass as she was walking twards the door. She said "don't hit me" I said "It was a love tap", her reply was "you have to love someone for it to be a love tap" so I said "it was a love tap"...I can't remember the rest of the story, but I think that's what the hell started it.

AnKleBiTer · 12-28-2005, 06:09 AM

By the way, the first time someone told me they loved me I just said TY cause I didn't know what to say in return. I knew I didn't love them but didn't want to hurt their feelings. LOL

Drifter · 12-28-2005, 07:35 AM

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Originally Posted by AnKleBiTer

By the way, the first time someone told me they loved me I just said TY cause I didn't know what to say in return. I knew I didn't love them but didn't want to hurt their feelings. LOL

I hate that damned phrase for this ^^^ specific reason. I've been on both ends of the "thank you" response, and neither end is very comfortable. All those three stinking words do is set a guy up for A) marriage or B) disaster.

QWIK1 · 12-28-2005, 10:58 AM

Acalliste and VTimm nailed it.

I told my wife (then girlfriend) that I loved her very early in our relationship. When you know you know... I think you should always say what you feel.
Our first date was Dec. 1st. Engaged a little more than a month later, Feb. 15. Then got married almost a year and a half later (and before someone asks, because of love not an uplanned pregnancy or anything like that).
Three children later, April 20, 2006 will mark our ten year anniversary. Like I said, when you know you know.. no sense beating around the bush.

QWIK1 · 12-28-2005, 11:17 AM

Hey Hut... any pics of your mustang on www.badassmustangs.com? My wife just bought a 01 SVT Cobra Convertible last summer and a friend of mine is an editor for Muscle Mustangs and Fast Fords magazine.

AnKleBiTer · 12-28-2005, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Drifter

I hate that damned phrase for this ^^^ specific reason. I've been on both ends of the "thank you" response, and neither end is very comfortable. All those three stinking words do is set a guy up for A) marriage or B) disaster.

OH did I forget to mention I was in 5th grade?? LOL

When I was married my husband and I said everyday no matter what...we never went to bed angry or allowed ourselves to go to sleep without saying it. Our motto was never go to bed angry. I'm grateful everyday for that because the last words he said to me were "Honey I really really love you"...he died the next day.

Drifter · 12-28-2005, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by AnKleBiTer

OH did I forget to mention I was in 5th grade?? LOL

When I was married my husband and I said everyday no matter what...we never went to bed angry or allowed ourselves to go to sleep without saying it. Our motto was never go to bed angry. I'm grateful everyday for that because the last words he said to me were "Honey I really really love you"...he died the next day.

I hear ya, girl. I was commenting more along the lines of a dating capacity, not marriage.

It warms my heart to hear the tough guys I work with (all construction trash like myself) tell their wives/children they love them shortly before ending a phone conversation, and quite frankly I'd like to be in that position some day. For now, however, each time I've been told that or told someone else that, the feeling has not been mutual and has ended an otherwise happy relationship.