Missing this girl so bad guys!!

[nystateboy15]

Long story short guys.... I was with this one lady for 4 years and we were planning on getting married within the next year or so. I loved this girl and I feel like I will never find another girl like this. The weird thing is that she still calls me and tells me that she loves me and will always love me forever?? But on the other hand she met this guy about 3 weeks ago and she said they are just friends. She travels to see him a hour past my house.
I just hope everything works out between us...thats all...this is going to be the worst xmas ever

[slimjim]

So, whats up with the "was" with this one lady? Who cut and run, you or her? I'm guessing her. 4 years is a long time to be together and it starting when you were 19 makes it feel that much longer. A lot happens from that age in 4 years. You don't leave much to go by in terms of the relationship, but just from what you said I would only assume that she is trying to play both sides of the fence and not upset you. I can also assume that she does care for you by what she said, but driving an hour to see another dude? Hang in there man, I do hope it works out for you. If not, keep your head up and please don't think its the end of the world. It all works out in the end. There are too many people in the world not to be able to find another person just as good or better. Like one that won't leave you hangin'.

Take this with a grain of salt, I know nothing of your relationship with is girl so I couldn't rightfully give you advice on your situation. Lord knows I'm no Casanova

[ASCI_Blue]

Here's some good solid advice. Go look in the mirror, you're doing that right. Now punch yourself as hard as you can in the face.

Feel better? No? Too bad cause I do you freakin wussbag.

Lemme guess what happened. You met chick, you hooked up, started going out on dates where you paid. She'd let you do'er a few nights a week, you still took'er out on dates. Celebrated important occasions like her birthday, V-day, and your various anniverseries, etc. And here you are now posting in my beloved forum about how she cut and run for some other dude.

If I hadn't fallen victim of this situation time after time I wouldn't be where I am today. So here's what I'm gonna do for you. Slap yourself again, feel better now? Good. Now go clean that blood off stud. Give the boys a call and go out for once. I already know you've had your nuts in the grinder for the last few years so you owe it to yourself to cut loose. While you're out start hanging out with other chicks. Get some numbers, get them to take you out. Better yet hook up with one of her best friends. Make sure she finds out you're a desirable male and she'll be back soon enough. If she isn't guess what? You've now got an entire harem to choose from. Now go forth boy and become a man.

[fire]

Originally Posted by ASCI_Blue

Here's some good solid advice. Go look in the mirror, you're doing that right. Now punch yourself as hard as you can in the face.

Feel better? No? Too bad cause I do you freakin wussbag.

Lemme guess what happened. You met chick, you hooked up, started going out on dates where you paid. She'd let you do'er a few nights a week, you still took'er out on dates. Celebrated important occasions like her birthday, V-day, and your various anniverseries, etc. And here you are now posting in my beloved forum about how she cut and run for some other dude.

If I hadn't fallen victim of this situation time after time I wouldn't be where I am today. So here's what I'm gonna do for you. Slap yourself again, feel better now? Good. Now go clean that blood off stud. Give the boys a call and go out for once. I already know you've had your nuts in the grinder for the last few years so you owe it to yourself to cut loose. While you're out start hanging out with other chicks. Get some numbers, get them to take you out. Better yet hook up with one of her best friends. Make sure she finds out you're a desirable male and she'll be back soon enough. If she isn't guess what? You've now got an entire harem to choose from. Now go forth boy and become a man.

I could not have said it better my self, but you forgot one important thing (shame on you). When this guy goes out he will undoubtedly try to use the sympathy angel to get chicks not knowing that chicks do not dig whiney wussbags. DO NOT EVER DO THIS. +1 on hooking up with her friends; old lady split after 5 yrs, nailed her cousin a week after and her "bff"(whatever the fuck that is) 2 months later.

[fire]

Originally Posted by nystateboy15

Long story short guys.... I was with this one lady for 4 years and we were planning on getting married within the next year or so. I loved this girl and I feel like I will never find another girl like this. The weird thing is that she still calls me and tells me that she loves me and will always love me forever?? But on the other hand she met this guy about 3 weeks ago and she said they are just friends. She travels to see him a hour past my house.
I just hope everything works out between us...thats all...this is going to be the worst xmas ever

bro, your not the first guy this has happened to... welcome to the club. reality check!!! she is not traveling all that distance to see this guy because they are just "good friends"; you know he is laying the pipe to her. If this is the first time you split up chances are you will get back together, but it will not last too long. I hate to be the one to give ya the news, but this is the beginning of the end.

[nystateboy15]

Thanks guys for the input sersiously! But I've been there and done it, it might sound strange saying it and only be 23 years old. I have been with alot of ladies and it is fun n shit, but, it's just not me guys. I wanted this girl, I lived with this girl.... I know I got to grow a set of nuts, its just that I'm heart broken and it sucks so fucking much. The thing is guys..She knew what she wanted in life...she fucking smart, has a bachelors degree in Secondary Education and going for her masters degree, is teaching as we speak, and I just thought she knew what she wanted in life thats all....
She called me today and We talked about what happened. She told me she is scared about the marriage thing and having a kid...She just wants to take things slow...and she wants to still see me .....on the other hand I told her I wanted to bitch slap the other guy she went to see....she got mad...lol

[fire]

Dude, she got mad........at you? after all the bull shit she put you through she is mad? that is fucked up.

[nystateboy15]

Cause I said I wanted to slice his throat open and watch him bleed to death...lol..
I'm trying dude........it's just hard to forget someone you once and still do love!!

[HUTSCBR]

If you are going to try to stay with her I would make this traveling to see a good friend, that she has known for a whole 3 weeks, shit end. You don't travel an extra hour to spend time with someone you just met if your not givin it up to them. You got to nip that shit early or you will be dealing with it for the rest of your life.

[jim schmidt]

Originally Posted by nystateboy15

Cause I said I wanted to slice his throat open and watch him bleed to death...lol..
I'm trying dude........it's just hard to forget someone you once and still do love!!

I usually have good advice for people in your position, but in this case my advice to her would be "keep on going."

Jealousy will kill every one of your relationships until you conquer it, dude. She's right on this one.

[ASCI_Blue]

Originally Posted by fire

I could not have said it better my self, but you forgot one important thing (shame on you). When this guy goes out he will undoubtedly try to use the sympathy angel to get chicks not knowing that chicks do not dig whiney wussbags. DO NOT EVER DO THIS. +1 on hooking up with her friends; old lady split after 5 yrs, nailed her cousin a week after and her "bff"(whatever the fuck that is) 2 months later.

I was a bit more tame on that post, I had alcohol in my system so I was being gentle. But fire you of course are right, he should not use the sympathy angle to get women as it is quite wussbagish.

[gixxer27519]

that tactic will insert you into the "freind-zone" check "Swingers" for a reference.

[OFFICER737]

Send her packin and move on! She had her chance now give it to someone else! Life is too short and women are too plentiful!!

[ASCI_Blue]

Originally Posted by OFFICER737

Send her packin and move on! She had her chance now give it to someone else! Life is too short and women are too plentiful!!

QFT.