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Don't go meet the kids unless you know you're serious about it. Even then it opens a whole new can of worms. Especially if you break up. I dated a girl that had a daughter. I was there for the first 2 1/2 years of the kids life. Believe it or not I still miss the kid!
+1, thats another thing, the kids could end up likeing you alot, but the girl has different thoughts, its rough for the kids, and if you like the kids, its rough for you
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Don't go meet the kids unless you know you're serious about it. Even then it opens a whole new can of worms. Especially if you break up. I dated a girl that had a daughter. I was there for the first 2 1/2 years of the kids life. Believe it or not I still miss the kid!
I agree. You can get attached to the kids and make a break up very hard on everyone. But if you like her don't let them scare you away
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I would be leary if she wanted you to do things with the kids any time soon...as said already..she would most likely be looking for that daddy figure. If you are just looking for some "fun dates" like you said, you may want to reconsider..it's not fair to anyone involved.
Don't completely count her out just because she has kids...single parents have the right to date too. In my honest opinion though, being a 27yr old single mom myself...you two going for anything serious doesn't make much sense. You are at two different points in your life with very different priorities(hopefully). But that's not to say it can't be done.
Just be very careful should you pursue this. Hopefully she is mature/wise enough to make an appropriate timeline and decisions for herself and her kids.
Good Luck.
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I was in the exact same situation, and it is a toughy. A good rule of thumb is to make sure you are REALLY falling for this girl for the right reasons. Trust me, take it real slow, and NEVER ask to meet her kids untill she thinks its time. Also, what are her intentions? I am not taking a shot at her at all, so please dont take it that way but is she looking for fun? For a date? Or is she looking for a good provider to take care of her and the kids? Tough situation, man, but if you fell she is worth it, then go for it. Just remember, Single Moms have a rough deal, so dont screw her over.
I dated a stripper with two kids when I was in college.... never met the little rugrats though.. Never really affected our relationship, she was a cool chick.
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I find that most dating moms in that age range will actually keep you from the kids for a bit. They don't want to confuse the kids about "Mommy's new friend". First see if she wants to date. Then take it slow, her being closer to 30 will make it harder for her to take you seriously. No offense.
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Just remember to be upfront and honest about your intentions...she has enough drama in her life if she is trying to work and raise two small children without BS from some guy...
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Did you ask her yet?
Also, I always told my parents that if they got divorced, NEITHER one of them would ever date again, I'd personally see to it . I'm 21, and they've been together forever, I guess they're part of the 48% that don't end up in divorce. Keep that in mind, if her 5 year old is anything like I was, you're in for some trouble .
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I'm of the same opinion as Firefighter, however I've dated three different single mothers ranging from a few years younger to 10 years older. About all I'll say on the subject - from my own experience - is that single mothers don't date for fun. Free time is sacred and she's wanting to spend it with you for a reason.
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Honestly, unless the girl was someone AMAZINGLY incredible, like someone I had never met before, I would not be willing to take the baggage associated with her kids. It's just one headache I don't want to deal with (not the kids, just the fact that they aren't MY kids)
Good thing not all men think like you and a few others. I was the older mom with kids...not by choice my hubby died at a young age. Lucky for me I met someone who "ENDURED" the extra baggage that came with me. But then again it takes someone mature, extra special and giving enough to be able to accept the responsibility of something or someone they had nothing to do with in terms of their existence.
Not trying to start anything but single moms need love too...and it takes an special guy to be able to accept all that extra stuff (and who) comes with her!!
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They're just little people, don't let them weird ya out. I recently turned 23 and I've noticed that most women of "dateable age" (21+ as 18-21 has ALOT of life experience) have kids. Even if you did meet them the first day, all is not lost. Unless they see ya kissin' and huggin' on mommy you may as well be any other friend of hers to them. Single moms don't just hide out at home with their kids hopin' to snag some guy walkin' by. They interact with people all day in the presence of their kids. Moms are great, generally they are so much confident and sure of themselves than the kidless women.
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...About all I'll say on the subject - from my own experience - is that single mothers don't date for fun. Free time is sacred and she's wanting to spend it with you for a reason.
Maybe she wants to just go out and have fun. Feel like a woman again, and not just always a Mom.
What's wrong with just going out on a date?
If she won't go out with you, Travis... send me her pic. I might do her, I mean take her out.
Seriously, if you're not looking to get married to this woman, what's the problem if she has kids?
She hasn't even agreed to go out with you yet. You think she's going to let you near her kids anytime soon?
BUT,might be cought doing a wheelie or stopie.
In my honest opinion though, being a 27yr old single mom myself...you two going for anything serious doesn't make much sense. You are at two different points in your life with very different priorities(hopefully). But that's not to say it can't be done. 
. I'm 21, and they've been together forever, I guess they're part of the 48% that don't end up in divorce. Keep that in mind, if her 5 year old is anything like I was, you're in for some trouble 
