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I agree with nolip, even with permission it's probably a bad idea. I've heard of a few people swinging like that, and it seems to end up with trouble more often than not. If you want to sleep around, you probably shouldn't be in the relationship.
I think that most people, until they've been cheated on, would probably do it and try to justify it. I have been cheated on by a girl who supposedly wanted to marry me. After three years of being with her, she started fucking this other dude, who I knew by the way. That has got to be the absolute worst feeling in the world. I don't care if my chick shot me or something, I couldn't cheat on somebody. I would never put someone through that pain. It is seriously the worst feeling ever. I don't think you can justify cheating. If my chick were a vegetable, I would just jack off all the time. I wouldn't seek another girl to satisfy that part of the relationship. I don't think you can justify it at all.
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What is considered "cheating"? You must define that first before you ask the question. Because what some couples/people may consider cheating may not be considered cheating by others.
Now obviously if you slip your dinky in her dinky do then yea that's cheating. To alot of people it can be less then that. Hell my ex-wife thought me masturbating was "cheating" Shit...if I had known that I would have gotten some real ass.
So you must go back and define what is consider cheating. Looking at another person, kissing, touching, email, cyber/phone-sex
I don't believe there is any justification...you always have a choice to leave the relationship if you aren't happy with your partner and situation. No one forces you to stay.
Want to cheat? Don't get into relationships..period...you hurt people on all sorts of levels and wind up giving them baggage to carry around and put on someone else (that's if the person doesn't work through it). It's a bad domino effect.
Also just because a relationship is going bad doesn't give the right for someone to stray--either finish the relationship or make it better!
As for the swinging thing...what is the point of being in a relationship then anyway? Just be single and get it all...that concept just doesn't make much sense to me..
Since I am an ex-cheater, I'll tell you my definition! (Bring it on!!!! )
To me, cheating is far ahead of any naked intimate behavior. I "cheated" in my previous relationship far before my pants ever hit the floor. Cheating, again in my opinion, starts with mental stimulation-conversation, hearing each other speak, becoming "involved" with each other without a single physical advance. That, to me, is cheating. Once you have the above mentioned areas, the pants are going to drop, no matter what you do!
But, in my defense before the haters hop in, I left as soon as I could. The worst thing a person could do is "cheat" and then "maintain" the main relationship. But I think if you figure it out and remedy the main situation the world can be a happy place.....my world is now an AMAZINGLY happy place!!!
Well my wife I mean Ex Wife cheated on me for 7 out of our 6 year marriage...yep found out she was at it before we even got married... LOL... Did I think it was wrong....yeah sure, I found out the first time after just 8 months of marriage.... you know what I'm not going to go anywhere with this and make sense, but here's my opinions.....Cheating, simple, if your going to do it in a relationship, either you or the person your with is going to get hurt, true there are relationships where they call cheating - Swinging.....but statistics do show that it pretty much always ends the same way, someone getting hurt. It's fact of life as humans, we attach our emotions to both physical and mental pleasures, when that happens you cant turn back....Your either cheating, or breaking up a relationship to move on.... Do I think it's right, sorry there cant be an open opinion, it's natural human nature, it's going to happen no matter what, and my guess it either has or will to everyone you know, including yourself, you just may not have realised it yet. Until the day comes, maybe like blndebmbr that you actually find your one true soul mate, where there can be no further satisfaction elsewhere, where your eyes go blind, your ears become deaf, and your senses go numb to all others....
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No, cheating is never justified. Doesn't mean you can't seek permission. But doinking other people isn't a right. If you can swing it to be OK'd by your partner to get some on the side, then go for it. But the instant you lie, or manipulate the situation, you have crossed the line into cheating and have belittled your primary relationship to nothing.
I don't agree with cheating, I have done it, and had it done to me, however, I don't see anything wrong with helping someone cheat. My philosophy is this: "It is not MY job to keep your girlfriend faithful to you, if I walk up to her, and start a conversation, and she ends up coming home with me, it is YOUR fault, it is your fault for not taking better care of her, because if she is willing to sleep with me, either you are not handling buisness at home, or you hooked up with a whore, which means you should have done more research before jumping into the relationship with her, bottom line is, only you can make your girl cheat."
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