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ajalbers · 01-18-2006, 11:54 AM

Here is one to ponder over. If you have some time to kill, I could use some feedback on this situation.

I was working as a restaurant manager and started dating one of my employees. At first everything was "Amazing". She had everything I want in a life long partner.

We dated for 3 months and then moved in together b/c our leases were up at the same time and decided to just go for it. We were both new to the city and didn't know many people. It was a big move but we felt our friendship was strong enough that if we broke up we could work it out.

One sunny day in august I had lunch with my ex- who i dated for 6 years- on my way home I crashed my bike- some dumbass turned into on coming traffic and cut me off- but thats another story for some other time.

So I stopped by my gf's work and told her where I was and what had happened. Since that day she said she couldn't trust me. Which I have never lied to her about anything. Me and my ex are very good friends. My ex got engaged so we had luch to catch up.

My gf and I broke up a couple of months ago and things were fine untill I started to "find things out". She likes to chat with people online. She had meet someone a year ago before we got together. She didn't talk to him when we were together b/c it made me upset b/c they always talk about sex. At the same time she didn't want me talking to my ex because it made her jealous. This was before the luch and accident.

She told me that she has never had sex with this guy she meet online whom she drove 3 hours to see periodically before we dated. Once we broke up they started talking again. She said he was a player and she wouldn't waste her time with him.

I read an instant message on her computer that talked about sex and how he only lasted 4 minutes the first time and the 2nd he lasted forever, blah blah blah. This was 2 days before x-mas. I confronted her about this and she said they only had a make out session.

But their was another instant message with one of her friends from home saying that she had sex over x-mas. Now i'm starting to think that she has lied to me this whole time we dated. What else could she have been up to?

So I called her out on being dishonest with me and that I know she slept with him and the fact that she told me she wasn't going to waste her time. basically she told me to F-off and that i am being an a-hole. Is this true? i'm i being unreasonable? i know I shouldn't have read her stuff on her computer but I knew something wasn't adding up and she wouldn't tell me the truth.

We haven't talked in a week (and we live together) and I don't know what to do about the situation. i feel that if we could work things out that I would want to be with her again. i can't stop thinking about it and she won't talk to me. I just don't know what to think or do. Can anyone help?

01-18-2006, 11:54 AM	#1 (permalink)
ajalbers Back Marker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Orange County, CA Age: 28 Posts: 32 Casino Cash: $250 Sportbike: 03/honda/600rr	enigma Here is one to ponder over. If you have some time to kill, I could use some feedback on this situation. I was working as a restaurant manager and started dating one of my employees. At first everything was "Amazing". She had everything I want in a life long partner. We dated for 3 months and then moved in together b/c our leases were up at the same time and decided to just go for it. We were both new to the city and didn't know many people. It was a big move but we felt our friendship was strong enough that if we broke up we could work it out. One sunny day in august I had lunch with my ex- who i dated for 6 years- on my way home I crashed my bike- some dumbass turned into on coming traffic and cut me off- but thats another story for some other time. So I stopped by my gf's work and told her where I was and what had happened. Since that day she said she couldn't trust me. Which I have never lied to her about anything. Me and my ex are very good friends. My ex got engaged so we had luch to catch up. My gf and I broke up a couple of months ago and things were fine untill I started to "find things out". She likes to chat with people online. She had meet someone a year ago before we got together. She didn't talk to him when we were together b/c it made me upset b/c they always talk about sex. At the same time she didn't want me talking to my ex because it made her jealous. This was before the luch and accident. She told me that she has never had sex with this guy she meet online whom she drove 3 hours to see periodically before we dated. Once we broke up they started talking again. She said he was a player and she wouldn't waste her time with him. I read an instant message on her computer that talked about sex and how he only lasted 4 minutes the first time and the 2nd he lasted forever, blah blah blah. This was 2 days before x-mas. I confronted her about this and she said they only had a make out session. But their was another instant message with one of her friends from home saying that she had sex over x-mas. Now i'm starting to think that she has lied to me this whole time we dated. What else could she have been up to? So I called her out on being dishonest with me and that I know she slept with him and the fact that she told me she wasn't going to waste her time. basically she told me to F-off and that i am being an a-hole. Is this true? i'm i being unreasonable? i know I shouldn't have read her stuff on her computer but I knew something wasn't adding up and she wouldn't tell me the truth. We haven't talked in a week (and we live together) and I don't know what to do about the situation. i feel that if we could work things out that I would want to be with her again. i can't stop thinking about it and she won't talk to me. I just don't know what to think or do. Can anyone help?